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有些事你拖，是因为不喜欢；有些事你拖，是因为太重要；习惯性拖延——有人说是代价最高的性格缺陷。这一期，我们聊拖延，看两位“匪气十足”的主人公，如何在“无准备、无资源、无帮助”下，摆脱拖延，开始改变。欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007，说说你的想法。 00:50—本期嘉宾：Melody & Lassie 03:26—你拖的，往往是你不想做的事 05:30—早结婚不是冲动，是不拖延的人生策略 07:04—我不想成为一个随时可替代的工具 09:26—公司 vs 个体的冲突 11:36—从实习生到昂跑CEO 14:19—从0到1为什么难？ 16:00—缺什么，就去拼什么，人就ready了 18:25—很多能力，是做了之后才知道自己有 21:23—为什么有些人会选择“正面刚”？ 23:41—为什么女性总在等准备好 25:23—不完美、才完美 28:44—先有不好惹的爹妈 29:09—钱，是你为自己发声的底气 31:59—卧薪尝胆，给自己留底牌 35:27—亲自下场去做 38:00—世界不会给你机会，你得自己撬开它 40:36—你真正跨不过去的，到底是什么？ 00:50 — Meet the guests: Melody & Lassie 03:26 — You don’t procrastinate on everything 05:30 — Marrying young isn’t impulsive — it’s a way to stop procrastination 07:04 — “I don’t want to be just another replaceable tool” 09:26 — Company vs. individual: the hidden tension 11:36 — From intern to CEO at On Running: why trying matters 14:19 — Why going from 0 to 1 feels so hard 16:00 — You don’t need to be ready — fill the gaps as you go 18:25 — You only discover what you’re capable of after you do it 21:23 — Why some people choose to confront instead of avoid 23:41 — Why women tend to wait until they feel “ready” 25:23 — Imperfection isn’t a flaw — it’s the starting point 28:44 — Family shapes you more than you think 29:09 — Money = the confidence to speak up 31:59 — Play the long game: build your leverage quietly 35:27 — Get your hands dirty (stop waiting, start doing) 38:00 — The world is your oyster-you decide how to open it 40:36 — What’s the real thing holding you back?

旅行就像打开薛定谔的盒子——有时遇到意料之中的惊喜，有时遇到完全出乎意料的意外。无论遇到什么，都是你旅程中不可或缺的一部分。这一次，我们请来资深旅行玩家Daniel和Sandora，大家一起来聊聊旅途中那些奇怪、有趣又意外的发现。 00:50 - 本期嘉宾：Daniel&Sandora 01:30 用旅行修复童年缺憾 06:28 当恋人偏爱独自旅行 08:52 带父母旅行却改变自己 10:21 像父母当初对你那样，把全世界带给他们 11:36 旅途中，看到的印度百姓思维陷阱 13:44 书籍让你摆脱各种陷阱 14:53 被衡山美到忘了时间 18:28 周末随地大小旅行的歪果仁 21: 00 遇到爱，就住下不走了 24:29 住在有朋友的城市 25:58 颠覆你认知的中国城市 28:30 要娶office lady的卖包子青年 29:55 未知的人生，未必是最好的 30:00 跟着旅行攻略反着来，收获更多 32:00 颐和园私密玩法 33:35 总结 00:50 – Meet today’s guests: Daniel & Sandora 01:30 – Using travel to heal childhood scars 06:28 – When your lover who still love solo adventures 08:52 – The trip with parents that ended up changing yourself 10:21 – Giving your parents the world, the way they once gave it to you 11:36 – The mental traps I noticed in everyday India 13:44 – How books set you free from those traps 14:53 – Hengshan Mountain: so breathtaking we lost track of time 18:28 – Foreign friends who turn every weekend into a mini-journey 21:00 – When love finds you… and you just stay 24:29 – Choosing a city simply because your friends are there 25:58 – The Chinese city that blew our expectations out of the water 28:30 – The bun-seller who dreamed of marrying an office lady 29:55 – Why the unknown future isn’t always the better one 30:00 – Flipping the guidebook: traveling by doing the opposite 32:00 – Hidden corners of the Summer Palace 33:35 – Closing thoughts

去年好几个HR朋友都特别谈到，就业市场对于宝爸的青睐，尤其是管理层候选人；这让我特别好奇，结婚or生娃，会怎么影响我们的职场？本期请来未婚、已婚、临产、宝妈四位不同人生阶段的朋友，一起畅谈。男女视角我读出不一样的答案。欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007，等你哦 00:50 - 本期嘉宾：Joy&Alex 01:25 - 宝妈、新妈、新婚、未婚大介绍 04:24 - 男女视角看职场孕妈 08:04 - 当怀孕遭遇加班 10:53 - 嫁得好不如怀对公司 12:46 - 爸爸在职场中也难吗？ 14:04 - HR为何青睐宝爸？ 15:15 -产假后为何放弃升职 18:00 -训练你的大脑 19:12 -向蕾哈娜看齐？ 22:07 - 生女儿时的心里动作 24:48 -体会妻子的世界 26:59-男女的挑战各不同 28:04-是为家庭牺牲还是激发新可能 30:58-做真心的选择，怎样都不会错 33:30-带狗粮的结语 00:50 - Meet Our Guests: Joy & Alex 01:25 - Moms, New Moms, Newlyweds & Singles 04:24 - Pregnancy at Work: How Men and Women See It Differently 08:04 - When Pregnancy and Overtime Collide 10:53 - Is It Better to Marry Well or Be Pregnant at the Right Company? 12:46 - Do Dads Struggle at Work Too? 14:04 - Why HR Prefers Hiring Dads Over Moms 15:15 - Why Give Up Promotions After Maternity Leave 18:00 - Rewiring Your Brain for Parenthood and Career 19:12 - Taking Notes from Rihanna? 22:07 - What Goes Through Your Mind When You Have a Daughter? 24:48 - Seeing Life Through Your Wife’s Eyes 26:59 - Workplace Struggles: How Men and Women Face Different Battles 28:04 - Sacrificing for Family or Unlocking New Possibilities? 30:58 - If It’s a Choice from the Heart, There’s No Wrong Decision 33:30 - A Heartfelt Closing

❤️又到送礼时节了，别焦虑啊！要问什么是最好的礼物？其实英语字典很早就给出答案了，present当下，它的意思也是gift啊！如果需要英文文稿，欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007❤️ 00:54 - 本期话题：有关礼物那些事 02:22 - 律所礼物交换收到奇怪礼物 03:11 - 送“奢侈品”的创意玩法 05:03 - 最好的礼物叫“懂你” 07:00 - 为什么要送礼物 08:40 - 用走心礼物去管理 09:52 - 礼物也是一种沟通术 10:14 - 在上海什么礼物最贵 12:21 - 送礼物也要看天机 13:14 - 给家人的礼物不该掉链子 15:07 - 德国人送礼物也严谨 16:23 - 吐槽摩羯座选礼物 18:20 - 送给自己的礼物 19:47 - 最好的礼物就是今天 21:14 -总结 00:54 - Topic of the Day: The Art of Gift-Giving 02:22 - Strange Gifts from a Law Firm Gift Exchange 03:11 - Creative Ways to Gift “Luxury” Items 05:03 - The Best Gift? It's “Understanding You” 07:00 - Why Do We Give Gifts? 08:40 - Using Thoughtful Gifts for Relationship Management 09:52 - Gifts as a Form of Communication 10:14 - The Most Expensive Gifts in Shanghai 12:21 - The “Gift of Timing” 13:14 - Don’t Drop the Ball When Gifting Family 15:07 - How Germans Do Gift-Giving with Precision 16:23 - Ranting About Capricorn's Gift-Giving Skills 18:20 - Gifts for Yourself 19:47 - The Best Gift is Today