用「强势沟通」赢得尊重,又不伤和气

观象🐘

你好,亲爱的听众!你是否曾经历过这样的场景: ▸ 明明想拒绝,却勉强笑着说「好的」 ▸ 话到嘴边又咽下,事后反复懊恼「当时就该说出来」 ▸ 被评价「太敏感」或「太强势」,却不知如何平衡表达分寸 如果你也曾被这些问题困扰,欢迎来到《清醒沟通》——一档专为渴望「自信表达」却害怕冲突的你打造的播客。 🌟 破除迷思:强势沟通≠与生俱来的天赋 它是一种可通过训练掌握的核心能力,就像健身增肌一样,只要用对方法,每个人都能学会: ✅ 清晰表达需求,却不带攻击性 ✅ 守住个人边界,同时尊重他人 ✅ 在「被动沉默」和「激进冲突」之间找到最佳平衡点 🎯 本期核心内容: 1️⃣ 情绪解码术|告别「我也不知道自己怎么了」 ——用「情绪坐标轴」精准识别真实感受,不再用「我没事」掩盖需求 *附:超实用情绪词汇表+3分钟自我觉察练习* 2️⃣ 需求挖掘公式|看透表面诉求背后的真实渴望 ——当你说「希望他多回消息」,实际可能是「需要安全感」 案例演示如何用「5层追问法」触及核心需求 3️⃣ 低风险练习场|从点咖啡到提加薪的进阶训练 ——如何在日常场景中积累「表达自信」: ✔ 请店员重做一杯错的饮品 ✔ 向朋友提出聚会时间调整 ✔ 拒绝非职责范围内的请求 4️⃣ 身体语言掌控术|别让颤抖的手出卖你的心 ——3个技巧让声线更稳定、姿态更自信,即使内心慌得一批 5️⃣ 冲突预防模型|越早开口,代价越小 ——为什么「忍一忍」反而会让小矛盾升级成关系危机? 附:边界设定话术模板+最佳沟通时机判断指南 6️⃣ 非暴力沟通框架|用「XYZ公式」取代指责 ——把「你从来不在乎我」换成「当X情况发生时,我感到Y,希望未来能Z」 职场/亲情/亲密关系场景实例解析 7️⃣ 自信增强循环|每一次开口都在重塑自我价值 ——为什么越敢表达的人越容易获得尊重?行为心理学揭示的「表达-自信」正反馈机制 ✨ 适合这样的你: • 职场中不敢争取应得权益 • 习惯性讨好他人却压抑自己 • 希望改善亲密关系中的沟通模式 • 想要守护个人边界而不产生罪恶感 我们相信:真正的沟通不是改变性格,而是解锁本就属于你的力量。现在订阅,用科学方法修炼表达力,让每一次对话都成为自我成长的契机。

32分钟
52
2个月前

🔥破釜沉舟的蜕变:如何用“极端”专注重塑大脑,点燃内在驱动力,实现人生目标

观象🐘

你是否曾觉得生活停滞不前,渴望彻底的改变却不知从何开始?🤔 别再只追求“小步慢跑”了!本期节目将带你深入了解,为何真正的蜕变需要一种**“极端”的决心和方法**。我们将分享一个亲身经历的故事,揭示如何从迷失困境到事业、健康、精神全面回归正轨。 你将发现: * ✨ 你的大脑如何通过**“神经营塑性”**迅速重塑,让全新标准成为你的第二天性。 * 💡 激发你内在的**“神经化学鸡尾酒”**——好奇、热情、目标、自主、掌控,让你告别外在驱动,燃起持久的内在动力。 * 🎯 当你真正**“痴迷”于一个目标**时,你的心智会如何自动为你过滤现实,捕捉前所未有的机遇,让成功变得“自动”。 * 🌪️ 如何识别并利用生活中的**“混沌时刻”(心理熵)**,将其转化为人生“临界点”,迎来更高版本的自己。 这不是传统的“佛系”或“暴富”模式,而是一个为你量身定制的“整体式沉浸模式”。我们为你揭示“防御”和“进攻”两大策略:彻底清除干扰,并专注于改变你一生的“四大核心习惯”:一个真正能带来意义的项目、一本自我成长的书籍、一段深度连接现实的冥想,以及一次对身体的极致投入。 准备好消失6个月,然后脱胎换骨、判若两人了吗?💪 听完这期节目,你将获得一次改变未来6个月,乃至整个人生的清晰路线图!别再等待,现在就开启你的“不可思议”之旅吧!🚀

52分钟
70
2个月前

Go Extreme: How to Architect a Life You Love 🚀

观象🐘

Ever felt stuck in a rut, watching your most important goals fade into the background while shallow pleasures take over? 😫 You're not alone. Many of us find ourselves on a treadmill of slow progress, struggling to break free. But what if the secret to a truly transformative life isn't just about "consistency," but about going EXTREME? ✨ In this episode, we dive deep into a powerful, counter-intuitive approach to change that will challenge everything you thought you knew about personal growth. Our host shares a raw, personal story from their 2021 birthday – a pivotal moment when things were "going well" but progress felt like it was slipping away, leading to a profound realization: sometimes, you need to be "so fing mad at yourself"* to finally flip the script. Discover why being extreme isn't just a mindset, it's a science! We'll explore how intensity and obsession literally change your brain, quickening neuroplasticity – your brain's incredible ability to rewire itself and form new neural connections. Forget just repetition; we'll uncover how novelty and challenge supercharge this process, helping your new, higher standard become automatic. You’ll learn about the five intrinsic motivators – curiosity, passion, purpose, autonomy, and mastery – that create a powerful "neurochemical cocktail" in your brain, fueling sustainable motivation and even a state of optimal experience known as "flow". Imagine a world where discipline brings you joy! This isn't just about willpower; it's about re-shaping your reality. Your mind is wired to filter reality based on what you're obsessed with, automatically noticing opportunities that reinforce the higher version of yourself you're becoming. We'll explain how this "homing mechanism" steers you toward your goals without much effort – if you're truly obsessed, "the universe will conspire in your favor"! But what if you're not obsessed? What if you feel lost in chaos? We unveil the fascinating concept of "psychic entropy" – how periods of disorder in your life aren't just setbacks, but opportunities for a "higher version of yourself to emerge". Learn how to recognize that critical "crossroads of dissonance and insight" where you feel ripped in half, and how leaning into your higher self leads to an "insane burst of clarity" and a meaningful obsession. This is your tipping point! Finally, we'll introduce a revolutionary take on "monk mode" – not just cutting people off to make money, but a "holistic monk mode" dedicated to solving the problem of changing your entire life. This period of intense focus involves two crucial parts: Defense (eliminating soul-sucking distractions) and Offense (cultivating four transformative focus habits) that align you with the good, the true, and the beautiful in every dimension of your life. Get ready to discover the "one project," "one book," "one meditation," and "one workout" that can radically change your life and lead to a higher state of enjoyment. This episode is your permission to be extreme, to "disappear and come back unrecognizable." Tune in and start architecting the life you've always dreamed of! 💪🧘‍♀️📚

38分钟
10
2个月前

Unleash Your Inner Architect: Rewiring for Real Change

观象🐘

Are you ready to truly transform your life and step into a future you've only dreamed of? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, as if your past is constantly holding you back from the peace, abundance, or healing you deeply desire? If you're tired of waiting for external circumstances to change before you feel truly fulfilled, then welcome to "Unleash Your Inner Architect: Rewiring for Real Change." In this vibrant podcast, inspired by the groundbreaking work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, a leading expert at the intersection of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics, we dive into the profound truth that nothing changes in your life until you change. It's not just about positive thinking; it's about understanding how your personality—comprising your thoughts, actions, and feelings—literally creates your personal reality. For many of us, 95% of who we are by mid-life is a set of hardwired attitudes, beliefs, and automatic habits, largely programmed subconsciously. This means your body might be operating as if it's still living in the past. But imagine a different path. We'll explore how to unclutter ourselves from these unconscious programs by becoming deeply aware of them, catching ourselves before we slip back into old, uncomfortable patterns. This isn't just theory; it's a practical "work" that challenges you to become someone else – the new personality capable of creating a new reality. One of the most powerful insights we'll explore is the revolutionary concept of feeling the emotion of your future before it happens. Instead of waiting for success to feel worthy, or for a relationship to feel love, you'll learn to embody these elevated emotions now, becoming a "cause and effect" creator of your own destiny. This isn't just wishful thinking; Dr. Dispenza's research shows that when you combine a clear intention with an elevated emotion, your brain can begin to look like your future has already occurred, and your body can even begin to change genetically to match it, upregulating thousands of genes. Discover how connecting to an invisible field of energy and information can lead to profound shifts, including spontaneous healings and remarkable biological upgrades that defy conventional understanding. We'll discuss how cultivating heart-brain coherence not only enhances your creativity but can also reset the baseline for past traumas, liberating immense energy and allowing you to see your past as a source of wisdom, free from emotional charge. Join us on a journey where we demystify the process of personal transformation. Learn how to cultivate inner power, break free from the addiction to old emotions like resentment and frustration, and connect to the divine intelligence that resides within you. We'll highlight the profound impact of community, where collective consciousness and shared intention amplify personal change, leading to measurable transformations in brain function, heart coherence, and even your body's biology. Get ready to challenge your current understanding of what's possible. This podcast isn't just about learning; it's about applying the knowledge to create new experiences and feeling new emotions that literally change your biology. Tune in to ignite your potential, move beyond your perceived limitations, and become the architect of a truly magnificent future. Your journey to real change starts here.

54分钟
58
2个月前

终结内心“弹幕机”:纳瓦尔的智慧如何帮你告别焦虑、活在当下,并听从直觉

观象🐘

你的大脑,正在「内耗」还是「升级」?—— 玩转心智的“编程”指南 Naval Ravikant 在这段思维炸裂的对谈中,揭示了你心智的“底层代码”: 🔥 你的大脑,为什么总在“死机”? 压力,是因为内心两个冲突的“程序指令”同时运行,互相卡死。你想赚钱却不想上班?想被喜欢却又想自私?这些都是你“精神内耗”的根源。而焦虑,就像一台被无数未清理“缓存”和“垃圾文件”拖垮的服务器,你甚至不知道它为什么这么慢。 💡 系统优化:清理你的“精神内存” 解决焦虑的关键,是找出那些“隐藏的Bug”。仔细审视每一次焦虑,通过冥想、写日记、和朋友交谈来“调试”它。终极“重启键”:反思死亡。当你知道一切都将“清零”,你还会为那些转瞬即逝的“数据”而焦虑吗? ⏳ 你真的“在线”吗? 人生短暂,每一个瞬间都在“秒闪退”。所谓“浪费时间”,就是你没有“活在当下”的时刻。当你心不在焉,思维游离于过去和未来,渴望身处别处时,你就是在**“离线运行”。🤯 很多人害怕“游戏结束”,却没意识到,他们生命的大部分时间,都根本没“登录”**! 🎮 你的“直觉”,才是真正的“主控AI”! 大脑(头脑)擅长解决有明确“边界”的新问题,但在做艰难决策时,它是个“糟糕的算法”。你的**“直觉”(Gut),才是最终的“决策引擎”。它是经过“大数据”训练的“精炼判断力”,从进化基因到个人经验。面对重大选择,先理性分析,然后“睡一觉”,等待你的“直觉”给出那个“感觉对”的、有“信念感”的答案**。一旦“直觉”成熟,请无条件信任它,否则你会“自食恶果”,尤其是在那些失败的关系里。 🔑 成为你人生的“最高权限用户” 想提升“人生体验”?最简单的方式是像个旁观者一样,“观察”你自己的思想和心智,你会发现自己的“运行模式”。真正的满足感,来源于**“整体的自私”**。这意味着,按照你内心真正想要的去活,而不是成为社会期望的“默认程序”。 这不是鸡汤,这是21世纪“心智编程”指南✔️ 给厌倦“精神内耗”的你✔️ 给想掌握自己“人生算法”的你✔️ 给不愿再当“NPC”的你 “当你真正‘在场’时,你其实不会过多思考自己,而是更沉浸于当下、沉浸于手头的任务。” —— 现在,你要选择继续被“程序”操控,还是成为自己的“程序员”? (根据Naval Ravikant与Chris Williamson对谈精编) 为什么年轻人需要看这个? * 用“科技/游戏化”语言解构抽象概念,更易理解。 * 直接关联现代人普遍的焦虑、压力与决策困境。 * 不是告诉你“应该怎样”,而是教你如何“优化”自己的思维和生活。 * 帮助摆脱“内耗”和“无效努力”,真正掌控人生“进程”。

27分钟
99+
2个月前

Naval Ravikant on Anxiety, Decisions, and Living Fully

观象🐘

🌪 Anxiety & the Hidden Cost of Conflicting Desires Naval calls anxiety the signature emotion of the 21st century — often not from obvious stress, but from an invisible tangle of unaddressed problems. Picture it as a “mountain of garbage” piled up in the mind: wanting to be liked while acting selfishly, craving wealth without the work, or chasing goals we secretly resent. His cure? Shine light on the mess. Through journaling, meditation, therapy, or deep conversations, we can name the sources of tension and dissolve them one by one. ⏳ The Power of Presence Life, Naval reminds us, is astonishingly short — and everything you own, every achievement, every moment, will go to zero. Far from bleak, this is liberating: it forces us into the now. “Wasted time,” he says, is any moment spent outside full presence — especially when you’re doing something you truly want to do. The antidote to anxiety may be as simple (and as radical) as immersing yourself completely in this instant. 🧭 Gut Over Mind in Big Decisions Your gut, Naval argues, is the ultimate decision-maker — a distilled wisdom shaped by evolution and experience. The mind can calculate, analyze, and handle fresh, defined problems brilliantly, but when it comes to life’s big calls — relationships, career moves, major risks — it often overcomplicates. His method: list the pros and cons, sit with them, and wait. The right answer will land in your gut with unmistakable certainty. Ignore it at your peril. 🌌 Consciousness as the Only Reality Beyond the mental chatter and physical sensations, Naval points to consciousness itself — the ever-present backdrop in which all experience unfolds. Everything else — the mind, the body, even “good” and “bad” — is fleeting and interpretive. The highest state, he suggests, is one of non-interpretation: letting reality be as it is, without constant labeling. 🔑 Living on Your Own Terms The heart of Naval’s philosophy is unapologetic authenticity: to align life with your true desires, not society’s scripts. Strip away the noise, follow the quiet pull of your own curiosity, and live fully in the only place life actually happens — right here, right now.

29分钟
69
2个月前

🎬 「梅尔·吉布森:被好莱坞放逐的十字军战士」:从脑损伤到《基督复活》的史诗级抗争

观象🐘

今天,我们将解锁一段让3000万观众屏息的神对话!68岁的奥斯卡影帝梅尔·吉布森在《JRE》节目中,撕开这些鲜为人知的隐秘伤痕—— 💀 “我的大脑像瑞士奶酪” • 自曝因脑震荡留下永久创伤 • 高压氧舱40次治疗修复「灵魂窟窿」 • 戒酒瘾秘方竟是…(颠覆认知!) 🎥 好莱坞不敢播的导演手记 ▸ 拍《耶稣受难记》时主演2次遭雷劈 ▸ 新片将用AI还原「天使堕落」地狱景象 ▸ 自曝用「装疯」智斗街头劫匪 ⚡️ 争议暴击三连 → 怒斥福奇「比病毒更危险」 → 揭露加州山火背后的黑暗管理 → 断言现代媒体正在实施「活人祭祀」 🛑 被迪士尼封杀的内幕 《启示录》票房碾压好莱坞大片 却因「玛雅文明真相」遭紧急下架 🔥 谁该观看这期JRE? ✔️ 受困创伤后遗症的创造力战士 ✔️ 质疑主流叙事的文化叛乱者 ✔️ 在AI时代寻找灵性科技的导演 💡 独家彩蛋: 他如何用「红光疗法」逆转45年烟肺损伤? 为什么说「痛苦才是真正的引路人」? 现在,带你直击这位传奇硬汉的—— ✨ 破碎与重生 ✨ 信仰与背叛 ✨ 艺术与救赎 PS. 他预言:2024年最危险的 不是战争,而是…(留言猜中抽签名周边!) 👇点击播放,解锁被剪掉的17分钟禁忌对话

16分钟
37
2个月前

Gibson: Hollywood Resistance and the Nature of Reality

观象🐘

Joe Rogan Experience #2254 — Mel Gibson: Life, Film, and Faith 🧍‍♂️ Personal Challenges & Health Journey * Scoliosis & Chronic Pain: Born with spinal issues, worsened over time by injuries. * Near-Death Experiences: Mugged while fixing his car with a coat hanger in 1990s LA. Accidental hanging on a film set. Concussion at his daughter’s wedding. * Brain Trauma: Rugby & fights left lasting neurological damage (e.g., PTSD signs on brain scans). Recovery through fish oil, B vitamins, and hyperbaric oxygen therapy. * Addiction & Recovery: Lifelong battle with alcoholism and drugs. Framed addiction as a spiritual disease, and credited faith and humility as the cure. 🎬 Filmmaking Philosophy & Projects * "Entertain first": Even serious films should be compelling before being profound. * Use of Language: Films in Mayan, Aramaic, Latin to boost immersion. Subtitles promote audience focus. Notable Projects Discussed: * 🗿 Apocalypto: Originated as a “foot chase” film, evolved into a cultural critique. Themes: societal collapse, human sacrifice, modern parallels. Fully self-funded, distributed independently. * ✝️ The Passion of the Christ: Massive backlash from Hollywood, but became a global success. Had a transformative impact on actor Jim Caviezel and Gibson’s own faith. * 🧳 Flight Risk: A lighter, entertaining project — “quick and fun.” * ⚕️ Hacksaw Ridge: Celebrates Desmond Doss, a medic who saved lives through faith without violence. * 👼 The Resurrection (Upcoming): Focus: Christ's resurrection, starting from the fall of angels. Will span to the death of the last apostle. Heavy use of CGI, including a de-aged Jim Caviezel. Requires deep spiritual preparation, according to Gibson. 🧠 Philosophical & Societal Observations * Happiness vs. Suffering: Constant happiness is a myth. Suffering often leads to growth and insight. * On California: Blame poor leadership for wildfires, homelessness, and social decay. * Signs of Collapse: Drawing from Jared Diamond's Collapse, they see parallels between ancient civilizations and today’s America. * Good vs. Evil: Evil manifests when profit trumps human value—especially in medicine and media. * Religious Belief: Gibson is deeply Catholic, with skepticism toward post–Vatican II changes. Believes in a “parallel counterfeit church” within the institution. Affirms belief in: Jesus' historical existence. The authenticity of the Shroud of Turin. Miraculous events as real and spiritually grounded. * Evolution vs. Creation: Rejects Darwinian evolution. Supports intelligent design and a young Earth (approx. 8,000 years old). Distrusts carbon dating as unreliable. * Climate Change: Strong skepticism about anthropogenic climate change. See current green energy pushes as profit-driven, not science-based. * Media & Medical Institutions: Harsh criticism of mainstream media, FDA, and Anthony Fauci. Claim institutions suppress natural remedies (e.g., ivermectin, methylene blue). View pharma and public health as compromised by money and power. * Ancient Healing & Energy: Describes mystical experiences with a Qigong master performing inexplicable healing. Suggests lost ancient technologies may have harnessed similar forces. * Learning Through Story: Emphasize the power of myths, fables, and history to shortcut direct suffering. Stories are essential for transmitting wisdom across generations. 🧭 Final Takeaway: This episode is a collision of raw humanity and deep convictions. Gibson emerges not just as an artist but as a man scarred, seeking truth through pain, faith, and storytelling. His world is one where suffering refines, faith defies logic, and art entertains while probing eternity.

29分钟
60
2个月前

学习的“后台代码”被揭开:你也能2周精通任何事!

观象🐘

传统教育告诉你成功需要十年磨一剑?错!在Dan Koe这段颠覆性对话中,他将为你揭示如何在短短2周内取得惊人进展,彻底改写你的学习范式!这不仅仅是关于知识,更是关于即刻行动和实现野心。 🔥 「技能的“源代码”:只学你所需的碎片」大多数人学技能像“读天书”,效率低下。Dan Koe揭示,任何技能都由可堆叠的“技术”组成。你不需要“学商业”或“学吉他”,而是要明确你的“目的”——想玩一首歌,就学弹那首歌的特定和弦;想制作图片,就学如何抠图。只学习当下解决问题的关键技术,就像拼图,你只需要看到80%的图像就能推断出整体,而不是从头开始拼完每一个碎片。这能让你省下无数时间,专注于真正有用的知识。 📈 「心智的“渐进超载”:摆脱内耗,实现野蛮生长」你的心智可能被“慢速学习”的模式所**“编程”。当你把“赚钱”或“社交”视为技能时,负面情绪和自我怀疑会阻碍你。但这些都是可以被控制和练习的技能。像健身一样,你不需要练到100%成为“职业玩家”,达到20-40%的熟练度就足以带来人生巨变 (例如年入10万-30万美元)。摆脱算法、外界的干扰,专注目标,你的技能水平能成倍提升。 ⚡ 「极限学习的“加速器”:纯粹专注与战术压力」真正的快速学习需要心无旁骛的“纯粹专注”——你与任务合二为一,没有一丝分心。当学习陷入困境,感觉效率低下时,你需要一个终极“作弊码”:战术压力。这是一种环境工程,人为制造高压情境和强截止日期(比如辞职创业、承诺发布一个你还不会做的动画视频)。这就像测试你的“极限卧推”——置身事外,逼迫自己发挥全部潜能,突破瓶颈,加速实现目标。 这不只是关于学习方法——这是颠覆你人生进程的行动指南! ✔️ 给厌倦传统教育模式的你 ✔️ 给渴望在短时间内看到实际成果的你 ✔️ 给想解锁自身无限潜能的你 “学校教你缓慢学习,但掌控‘如何学习’,你就能以10倍速实现人生目标。”——现在,你还要继续被旧模式束缚,还是掌握新世界的**“加速键”**? (根据YouTube频道“Dan Koe”视频“You Can Learn Anything In 2 Weeks”精编) 为什么年轻人需要看这个? * 用“游戏化”语言解构学习和技能获取,更易理解。 * 直接关联现实世界的赚钱、事业和个人发展,提供实际行动路径。 * 不是告诉你“学什么”,而是教你“如何学得快、学得有效”,赋能学习主体性。 * 强调思维模式和心智控制,解决现代年轻人的焦虑和拖延。

38分钟
99+
2个月前

Unlock Your Inner Genius: Learn ANYTHING in 2 Weeks! 🚀

观象🐘

Tired of the slow grind? 😩 What if we told you you could learn anything in just two weeks? No, we're not talking about instant mastery—that takes years (duh!)—but imagine making mind-blowing, life-changing progress towards your biggest goals in just 14 days! ✨ Forget everything you think you know about learning. Sticking your nose in textbooks for hours and forgetting 95% of it? Nah. 📚 Most people are wired to learn 'extremely slow' 🐢, and frankly, it's often a total waste of time that delays your real-world progress and development. 🤯 But what if you could learn how to learn FAST? If you mastered this meta-skill, you could crush TEN goals in the time it takes the average person to achieve just one! 💪 Think about it: ramping up your income 🤑, finally nailing that guitar solo 🎸, becoming fluent in a new language 🗣️, or dominating software like Photoshop, After Effects, or even AI! 🤖 This isn't about dry science or boring tips. This is about what you need to DO to accelerate your progress and get incredible results. We're breaking down the three radical insights that will turn you into a rapid-learning machine: * Skill acquisition = technique stacking 🧩 * Progressive overload of the mind (think gym gains for your brain! 🧠) * The raw power of pure focus, even through tactical stress 🔥 Ready to stop wasting time and start living your most ambitious life? Tune in and discover how to hack your learning speed and achieve what others only dream of! 🚀🎯

53分钟
99+
3个月前
EarsOnMe

加入我们的 Discord

与播客爱好者一起交流

立即加入

扫描微信二维码

添加微信好友,获取更多播客资讯

微信二维码

播放列表

自动播放下一个

播放列表还是空的

去找些喜欢的节目添加进来吧