亲爱的听友们五一快乐~ 这周跟你们分享我喜欢了好多年的宝藏歌曲，One Republic的I lived. Ryan Tedder wrote the song for his son Copeland Cruz, who was four-years old at the time when Tedder penned the song. 歌词内容是主唱Ryan Tedder的有感而发，也是写给自己当时四岁的儿子的。 这首歌也很适合在你下不了决心做决定的时候听。 真的是每一句歌词我都很喜欢： Hoping you take that jump 希望你纵身一跃 But don't fear the fall 不惧深渊 Hope when the water rises 希望当潮水涌起 You built a wall 你已经筑起了高墙 Hoping the crowd screams out 希望人群呼喊 Screaming your name 唤着你名 Hope if everybody runs 希望所有人都逃离的时候 You chose to stay 你仍选择坚守 Hope that you fall in love 希望你坠入爱河 And it hurts so bad 尽管受伤 The only way you can know 你要懂得的唯一一件事 Is give it all you have 便是倾尽所有 And I hope that you don't suffer 我希望当你感到痛苦 But take the pain 微笑面对 Hope when the moment comes 我希望大限来临的时候 You say 你可以说 I I did it all 我都做过了 I I did it all 我都做过了 I owned every second 我用尽了每一秒时间 That this world could give 感激世界的给予 I saw so many places 我见过了名山大川 And things that I did 做了我想做的事情 Of every broken bone 所以对我的每根断骨 I swear I lived 我发誓，我活过 Hope that you spend your days 希望你安度每日 But they all add up 终有所获 And when that sun goes down 当日落西山 Hope you raise your cup 你仍能举杯畅饮 I wish that I could witness 我希望我可以看到 All your joy 你所有的欢乐 And all your pain 还有悲伤 But until my moment comes 但是当我的大限到来 I'll say 我仍会说 I I did it all 我，爱过，恨过 I I did it all 我，痛过，伤过 I owned every second 我用尽了每一秒时间 That this world could give 感激世界的给予 I saw so many places 我见过了名山大川 And things that I did 做了我想做的事情 Of every broken bone 所以对我的每根断骨 I swear I lived 我发誓，我活过 Tedder is encouraging his son to live fearlessly, to face all the challenges, and to see “so many places,” and that he can look at his life with no regrets because he would have basically “done it all.” There also have been pains and failures – or as Tedder puts it “broken bone(s).” However, by embracing these hardships, at the end of the day he is able to “swear” that indeed he has “lived.” Tedder希望儿子能无所畏惧地去享受生活，去经历所有的痛苦和快乐，去面对所有的挑战，到达过很多地方，等到哪天回望自己这辈子，可以有底气说自己已经“活过了”。 而这首歌的MV也很燃，记录了一个出生就得了囊肿性纤维化(Cystic fibrosis)疾病的青少年的成长。他是One Republic的粉丝。 The song's music video pays tribute to One Republic’s teenage fan, Bryan Warnecke, and his struggles living with cystic fibrosis. [ˌsɪstɪk faɪˈbrəʊsɪs] Bryan says in the music video: Cystic fibrosis is a disease that attacks the digestive system and slowly shuts down the lungs. I've been doing my treatments every day of my life, so to me, it’s just one of those things that’s normal. I've been living with cystic fibrosis for fifteen years... Bryan在MV里说，囊性纤维化是一种侵袭消化系统并且缓慢减弱肺部功能的疾病。 他的一生中每一天都在做治疗，所以对他来说，这只是非常正常的事情之一。 When I first found out the life expectancy for the first time, it really scared me. Right now, it’s just one of those things that really makes you appreciate life. It makes me appreciate where you are, as a person. 最开始知道自己有这个疾病的时候很恐惧，但现在它只是一件让他无比感恩生活的事情。Bryan也像正常人一样尝试了很多事情，像踩单车、冲浪，一次次摔了再一次次爬起来。 It feels like I’m breathing through a straw. Whenever I try to breathe hard, it hurts. I want to make the most out of my life and have as much fun as I possibly can and my biggest fear is not being able to do that. 对他来说呼吸就像是通过一根吸管在呼吸，稍微用力就能感觉到疼痛。所以他只希望自己在有限的生命里能够尽情享受生活，最大的恐惧就是——没机会这样做了。 This year, Bryan and his teammates have ridden over 1,200 miles and raised $300,000 for Cystic Fibrosis research. Bryan还和他的队友一起骑行了1200英里，为囊性纤维化疾病的研究募捐到了30万美金。 在MV最后是Bryan骑行到了One Republic演唱会的画面，这也算是实现了他作为粉丝的梦想了。 希望我们也能像Bryan一样、像这首歌里唱的一样——to live fearlessly.

节目中英文全文可关注微信公众号Zoey八点英语 回复 李焕英 获取 春节档的《你好，李焕英》很多人都说太好哭了，哭完我就在想李焕英在穿越以后对女儿的期望只是“我希望她健康快乐就好”，跟之前希望她学习好考重本有极大反差。 是因为人之将死其言也善吗？ 其实不是的。看完这部电影也让我更好地理解了父母家人对我们子女的期待。 Many of us may feel the same way as Li Huanying. We feel like our parents always have very high expectation on us. They want us to have good grades, go to the best school, and have a well-paid job, even though sometimes they may neglect how we feel about their arrangements. 或许很多人都和李焕英有过类似的感受，父母总拿他们和别人家的孩子比，希望他们考个好成绩，去个好学校，有个好工作，可现实是很多时候子女都觉得自己让他们失望了。就像李焕英，甚至觉得“如果妈妈换一个更争气的女儿，她是不是能过得更幸福？” 看完李焕英我又重新回去看了一个TED演讲叫For Parents, Happiness is Very High Bar--对父母来说，幸福很难。 The speaker says there are guides that teach parents how to raise a disease-proof kid, a bilingual kid, a financially savvy kid and a science-minded kid. And all these has made parents very anxious about how they can raise a kid in a proper way. It seems like if they haven’t done enough things to raise a kid, they are failures. 总有各式各样的书籍教父母们如何培养一个抵抗力强的孩子、一个会双语的孩子、一个懂财经或者懂科学、最好啥都能懂的孩子。 好像只要自己没做到位，就是作为父母的失败。所以父母们总是很焦虑。 Well, what has led to a situation like this? For starters, there has been a major historical change. Kids worked, on parents’ farm primarily, but also in factories, mills, and mines. Kids were once considered economic assets. And later we recognized kids had rights, so we banned child labor, we focused on education instead, and school became a child's new work. 在禁止童工以前，尤其在农耕时代，孩子其实是一种经济资产，帮家里面干活，也到工厂之类的地方打工。后来随着经济的发展，才开始鼓励教育，禁止童工。所以接受教育又成了孩子们的新工作。 Rather than kids working for parents, parents began to work for kids. They realize that if they want their kids to succeed, school is not enough. But they don’t know exactly what they need to do. 原本是孩子给父母打工，现在变成了父母为孩子们工作，而且他们不知道在这个新时代孩子到底需要哪些技能以后才能“健康快乐”。 They have no clue what portion our wisdom, if any, is of use to their kids. The world is changing so rapidly, it's impossible to say. They teach their kids chess, thinking maybe they will need analytical skills. They sign them up for team sports, thinking maybe they will need collaborative [kəˈlæbəreɪtɪv] skills, you know, for when they go to Harvard Business School. 只是成绩好是不够的，是不是还要学点围棋培养分析性思维？是不是还得学点团体性的运动，以防……谁知道呢，他们哪天上哈佛商学院了没准需要团队合作技能？哈哈。 尽管他们知道自己在自己成长起来的年代，自己也不会那么多东西，现在一样过得好好的。 可在当下、在未来，谁又能预测还行不行得通呢？ That’s why they’re so anxious. They feel like if they aren't trying everything, they're defaulting on their obligations to their kids. 所以李焕英对孩子的期望是“健康快乐”是真的。可是她又担心如果贾晓玲儿没有达到那些条条框框的好成绩、好学校的条件，就没办法实现这个“健康快乐”的愿望。 而孩子们却总是难以理解父母们的焦虑。 那又该如何面对这个让双方都焦虑的困境呢？ 这位研究父母和孩子关系的演讲者Jennifer Senior说： In our desperate quest to create happy kids, we may be assuming the wrong moral burden. 当父母们竭力追求培养幸福快乐的小孩时，或许总承担着错误的思想负担。 It strikes me as a better goal is to focus on making productive kids and moral kids, and to simply hope that happiness will come to them by virtue of the good that they do and their accomplishments and the love that they feel from us. 更好的目标应该是培养富有创造力和品德高尚的孩子，然后只要祝他们幸福，通过他们的德行善举、他们的才能成就，以及感受到我们对他们的爱来获得。 Absent having new scripts, we just follow the oldest ones in the book -- decency, a work ethic, love — and let happiness and self-esteem take care of themselves. 没有新的教案，那么就沿用书中最古老的箴言吧—— 教他们保持礼貌、职业道德和爱——幸福和自尊就会自然成长。 这又让我想起了豆瓣评分第一的韩剧《请回答1988》里面的正锋。他爸妈为了让他能考上大学，连续复读了七年，考上了一个好学校的法学系。 终于达到了父母的期望。 可他真正的热爱却是创造美味的食物。他的爱好总是很特别，是百科小王子，也懂得各种生活小技能，为了研究食物还特地到寺庙去进修。看起来似乎都是没办法让他上个好学校找个好工作的技能。 可他毕业后投身餐饮行业，最后成了业内大名人。 他父母给他最好的礼物就是爱，以及培养了他的高尚品德和创造力。其他都是水到渠成。 Parents may never know what skills their children would need in their future, but they can focus on making productive and moral kids, and simply hope that happiness will come to them. And we, as their children, need to better understand their expectation on us, and to better communicate with them.

亲爱的听友们元旦快乐~ 抱歉这些天是我今年第一次放小长假调休，想放松一下，耽误了前些天更新。不过趁休息时间去看电影，终于在院线电影看到了一部很喜欢的电影，《心灵奇旅》，这部温暖小片很适合年末看。今天我们就来聊聊这部电影吧~ 【节目的中英文文本可以关注微信公众号Zoey八点英语 回复 心灵 即可】 The movie follows Joe Gardner, a middle school music teacher who has dreamed of performing jazz music onstage, and finally gets a chance at a club. However, an accident caused Joe’s soul to be separated from his body and transported to the heaven-like You Seminar. 影片讲的是一个叫Joe的初中音乐老师在好不容易拿到了能在正式的音乐场合表演爵士的机会、离自己的音乐梦想就差最后一步的时候，被一个意外带到了类似天堂的一个地方——叫You Seminar，介于生与死之间的心理中心。 Joe wants to get back to earth and returns to his life, so he teams up with another soul, named 22, who has never understood the appeal of human experience. 后来为了能回到地球，Joe和一个对人类生活一点兴趣都没有的灵魂22结伴了。最后他们意外地发现了人生中很多被大家忽略的乐趣，开始了新的生活。 在看电影的时候就想到了一本书叫《被讨厌的勇气》，里面提到的很多道理是一样的。比如电影探索的主题是：人活着，一定要有人生目的吗？ Many people are struggling to find a life purpose. We try to figure out what we’re good at, what we’re born to do, and what we hope to achieve. But, does everyone has to have a life purpose? 很多人穷尽一生都在焦虑自己的人生目的、人生意义是什么。 就像影片里有很多被困在“the zone”组的人。 So what is the zone? In positive psychology, the zone means a flow state. It is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. 心理学上把“心流”口语化地叫做the zone, 形容人在很专注地投入某件事并且很享受的时候会有的一种感觉。就像一直有音乐梦的Joe在弹钢琴的时候就有这种感觉。 但电影里说，有很多人却因为过度执迷于the zone, 而成了lost soul——迷失的灵魂。 Moonwind says, The zone is enjoyable. But when that joy becomes an obsession, one becomes disconnected from life. Lost souls are obsessed by something that disconnects them from life. 心流区是很让人享受的，但如果那种乐趣变成了一种执迷，就会让你跟生活脱离。迷失的灵魂总是对这些让他们跟生活没有连接的事而固执。 Just like Joe, he knows very well he is obsessed with jazz music and believes that he was born to be a jazz musician. So when he finds he died before he had the chance to perform at a club, he says, “my life was meaningless. No, no, no, no. I will not accept this.” Joe在第一次去世后回顾自己的一生，发现自己在即将上台表演前就去世了，他非常懊恼地说：“我的人生是没有意义的！我不能接受！” Before Joe is sent to the heaven, Joe shouts, “I’m not dying today. Not when my life just started.” 他不愿意自己在那一天去世，因为觉得自己的人生自此才刚刚开始。 可是当他后来真的有机会去表演了以后，走出表演厅，却开始质疑自己：I thought I would feel different. 以为自己在好不容易达成梦想之后感觉会不一样。可达到目的后的快感消失得比自己想象中的快很多。 所以其实人生不只是一个目的地，不是到达了就结束了。 它是无数个瞬间连接在一起的旅程。 If you forget to enjoy the countless moments in your life and only focus on chasing for your goal, the path to get to your goal will become meaningless. That’s why many people are stuck in pain, maybe because they don’t know what their dreams are, or maybe because they haven’t been there yet. 如果意识不到人生重要的是当下的瞬间，就会执着于探究自己未来的目的地到底是什么。所以很多人都焦虑于自己的心流区和梦想是什么，或者因为还没有达成目的而苦恼。 就像灵魂22。她和我们很多人一样，目前不清楚自己具体想做什么，似乎人生也因此就没有了意义，总是被家人和朋友嘲笑自己一事无成。 直到后来，当她到了人间，会感动于落叶飘到自己手上的美好，为自己能自由走路而兴奋，才意识到其实自己的spark--触发激情的点，就是享受生活中的每一刻。 So just like what the book The Courage to be Disliked says, “No matter what has occurred in your life up to this point, it should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on. That you, living in the here and now, are the one who determines your own life.” 回到最开始说的《被讨厌的勇气》，这本书最后也说了，“以前发生的事都不应该对你从此刻开始该如何过生活有影响。只有活在此时此刻的你，才决定了你的人生。”所以请用心过好当下的每一天，认真做好每一件事，它总能带你到达某一个地方。而对你而言的人生意义在做好“此时此刻”的同时，也会逐渐明晰。

今天跟你们分享一部挺治愈的电影《实习生》The Intern，是主演过《教父2》《美国往事》的罗伯特·德尼罗和安妮海瑟薇主演的。 A fashion company run by Jules Ostin, played by Anne Hathaway hired an unconventional intern, a seventy-year-old widower, Ben Whittaker. Ben went through a period of retirement, he felt empty void in his heart and decided to get back to work. Later Ben became a valuable employee and stared an unexpected friendship with the company’s CEO Jules Ostin. 【节目的中英文全文可以关注微信公众号Zoey八点英语 回复 实习生 获取】 （抱歉今天的节目全文不知道为什么一直上传失败）