We oftentimes ask ourselves, how to get others to love us?

But the real question we should be asking is, how to love ourselves more? Seriously, when we respect ourselves, become independent,  lead a fulfilling life, without extra efforts we will attract others to like us, because we are not trying to control someone or become affiliated to someone. 

Likewise, instead of asking ourselves how to manage stress, we might be better off figuring out a way to choose a job and relationships that do not give us much stress in the first place. 

Ask the right question. Don't make pointless efforts.