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团建还在喊兄弟，绩效面谈却像在谈生意——这种「变味」，未必只是老板虚伪，也未必只是你不努力。本期从人类学家 Alan Fiske 的四种底层关系语法出发：共同分享、权威排序、平等匹配、市场定价，解释人和人之间最常见的痛苦来源之一：横跳——同一件事上，动员用一种语法，结算换一种，而且常常单方面换频道、没跟你对齐。
我们会拆开标题里的职场画面，看三种典型横跳（家人→KPI、程序正义↔人情世故、投资人↔老板），再带到租房、伴侣管钱、朋友借钱等离开工牌也逃不掉的场景。本期尤其说给带团队的管理者：反复横跳会一点点透支员工的信任与耐性；也会给打工人的三步辨识法，以及一个可以随身用的 「四宫格」工具。
时间轴00:00 - 02:24 标题与钩子；下属 vs 老板两种视角；本期要回答的不是「谁更虚伪」
* 02:24 - 04:34 四种关系语法前置：Fiske 四模型名称与白话释义；横跳定义；本期结构预告
* 04:34 - 05:37 嵌套 vs 横跳；管理者视角：少制造横跳才能留住信任
* 05:37 - 07:31 开场延展：横跳不限于工牌（租房、朋友借钱、家里管钱）
* 07:31 - 10:48 误解诊断：大家庭话术 → KPI/优化；三种常见误读（虚伪 / 自责 / 认命）
* 10:48 - 12:54 个人经历（美妆行业）；动员 共同分享 vs 结算 市场定价；Rousseau 心理契约
* 12:54 - 15:52 四模型讲透；嵌套正常、横跳才伤人；三类常见横跳
* 15:52 - 16:49 禁忌权衡（口头提及）
* 16:49 - 19:13 职场 报销双标：有力 权威排序 / 无力 平等匹配；Leventhal 程序正义
* 19:13 - 23:00 老周/投资人：平时 市场定价、关键节点 权威排序；模型不匹配
* 23:00 - 23:40 三种横跳叠加 → 倦怠
* 23:40 - 26:36 家庭：共同分享 → 关键支出 权威排序；Kirchler
* 26:36 - 31:27 朋友借钱（主播经历）：共同分享 vs 市场定价；双方互感横跳
* 31:27 - 36:44 管理者五条自检；信任像账户、横跳是取款
* 36:44 - 38:57 打工人三步：命名 → 对齐 → 边界
* 38:57 - 40:37 收尾：四宫格工具；李佳琦案例；评论区邀请
📚 参考文献与学术注脚
Angulo, A. N., Goldstein, N. J., & Norton, M. I. (2025). Friendship fallout and bailout backlash: The psychology of borrowing and lending. Journal of Consumer Psychology, 35(1), 3–21. https://doi.org/10.1002/jcpy.1410
Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1979). Interpersonal attraction in exchange and communal relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 37(1), 12–24. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.37.1.12
Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (2012). A theory of communal (and exchange) relationships. In P. A. M. Van Lange, A. W. Kruglanski, & E. T. Higgins (Eds.), Handbook of theories of social psychology (Vol. 2, pp. 232–251). Sage. https://doi.org/10.4135/9781446249222.n38
Doden, W., Grote, G., & Rigotti, T. (2018). Does leader–member exchange buffer or intensify detrimental reactions to psychological contract breach? The role of employees' career orientation. Journal of Vocational Behavior, 106, 192–208. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jvb.2018.02.004
Farh, J.-L., & Cheng, B.-S. (2000). A cultural analysis of paternalistic leadership in Chinese organizations. In J. T. Li, A. S. Tsui, & E. Weldon (Eds.), Management and organizations in the Chinese context (pp. 84–127). Palgrave Macmillan. https://doi.org/10.1057/9780230511590_5
Fiske, A. P. (1991). Structures of social life: A four-element model of morally constituted relationships. Free Press.
Fiske, A. P. (1992). The four elementary forms of sociality: Framework for a unified theory of social relations. Psychological Review, 99(4), 689–723. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.99.4.689
Fiske, A. P., & Tetlock, P. E. (1997). Taboo trade-offs: Reactions to transactions that transgress the spheres of justice. Political Psychology, 18(2), 255–297. https://doi.org/10.1111/0112-8957.00062
Giessner, S. R., & van Quaquebeke, N. (2010). Using a relational models perspective to understand normatively appropriate conduct in ethical leadership. Journal of Business Ethics, 95(1), 43–55. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10551-011-0797-3
Khullar, T. H., Kirmayer, M. H., & Dirks, M. A. (2021). Relationship dissolution in the friendships of emerging adults: How, when, and why? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 39(1), 217–241. https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075211026015
Kirchler, E., Rodler, C., Hölzl, E., & Meier, K. (2001). Conflict and decision-making in close relationships: Love, money, and daily routines. Psychology Press.
Körner, R., & Schütz, A. (2021). Power in romantic relationships: How positional and experienced power are associated with relationship quality. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 38(9), 2653–2677. https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075211017670
Leventhal, G. S. (1980). What should be done with equity theory? New approaches to the study of fairness in social relationships. In K. J. Gergen, M. S. Greenberg, & R. H. Willis (Eds.), Social exchange: Advances in theory and research (pp. 27–55). Plenum Press.
McGraw, A. P., & Tetlock, P. E. (2005). Taboo trade-offs, relational framing, and the acceptability of exchanges. Journal of Consumer Psychology, 15(1), 2–17. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327663jcp1501_2
Restubog, S. L. D., & Bordia, P. (2006). Workplace familism and psychological contract breach in the Philippines. Applied Psychology: An International Review, 55(4), 563–585. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1464-0597.2006.00247.x
Restubog, S. L. D., Bordia, P., Tang, R. L., & Krebs, S. (2010). Investigating the moderating effects of LMX in the psychological contract breach–employee performance relationship: A test of two competing perspectives. British Journal of Management, 21(2), 422–437. https://doi.org/10.1348/1468-2071.09.006
Rousseau, D. M. (1989). Psychological and implied contracts in organizations. Employee Responsibilities and Rights Journal, 2(2), 121–139. https://doi.org/10.1007/BF01384942
Rousseau, D. M. (1995). Psychological contracts in organizations: Understanding written and unwritten agreements. Sage.
Vogler, C., Lyonette, C., & Wiggins, R. D. (2008). Money, power and spending decisions in intimate relationships. The Sociological Review, 56(1), 117–143. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-954X.2008.00779.x
Williams, K. D. (2007). Ostracism. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 425–452. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085641
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两位90后主播和他们的朋友们，致力于挖掘职场打工人的个人成长，行业亲历和有趣故事，和你一起吐槽老板，八卦行业；也和你一起努力拼搏，憧憬未来。
但我们始终坚信，“职场只是生活的一部分”，我们祝愿你有一个成功的职业生涯，但我们更希望你有一个快乐的人生
10：扎根于是市场营销的快消原住民，辗转于联合利华，欧莱雅，拜尔斯道夫、汉高等企业，一个阳光乐观的市场人
1号：辗转快消、体育、互联网、咨询的MBB咨询项目经理，个人成长教练，国家二级心理咨询师，Tedx演讲教练，培训师
如果你喜欢我们的节目，欢迎到小宇宙，苹果podcast，spotify，网易云音乐，喜马拉雅，QQ音乐订阅我们的播客，也欢迎添加e0ehao的微信，加入我们的听友群。
我们会拆开标题里的职场画面，看三种典型横跳（家人→KPI、程序正义↔人情世故、投资人↔老板），再带到租房、伴侣管钱、朋友借钱等离开工牌也逃不掉的场景。本期尤其说给带团队的管理者：反复横跳会一点点透支员工的信任与耐性；也会给打工人的三步辨识法，以及一个可以随身用的 「四宫格」工具。
时间轴00:00 - 02:24 标题与钩子；下属 vs 老板两种视角；本期要回答的不是「谁更虚伪」
* 02:24 - 04:34 四种关系语法前置：Fiske 四模型名称与白话释义；横跳定义；本期结构预告
* 04:34 - 05:37 嵌套 vs 横跳；管理者视角：少制造横跳才能留住信任
* 05:37 - 07:31 开场延展：横跳不限于工牌（租房、朋友借钱、家里管钱）
* 07:31 - 10:48 误解诊断：大家庭话术 → KPI/优化；三种常见误读（虚伪 / 自责 / 认命）
* 10:48 - 12:54 个人经历（美妆行业）；动员 共同分享 vs 结算 市场定价；Rousseau 心理契约
* 12:54 - 15:52 四模型讲透；嵌套正常、横跳才伤人；三类常见横跳
* 15:52 - 16:49 禁忌权衡（口头提及）
* 16:49 - 19:13 职场 报销双标：有力 权威排序 / 无力 平等匹配；Leventhal 程序正义
* 19:13 - 23:00 老周/投资人：平时 市场定价、关键节点 权威排序；模型不匹配
* 23:00 - 23:40 三种横跳叠加 → 倦怠
* 23:40 - 26:36 家庭：共同分享 → 关键支出 权威排序；Kirchler
* 26:36 - 31:27 朋友借钱（主播经历）：共同分享 vs 市场定价；双方互感横跳
* 31:27 - 36:44 管理者五条自检；信任像账户、横跳是取款
* 36:44 - 38:57 打工人三步：命名 → 对齐 → 边界
* 38:57 - 40:37 收尾：四宫格工具；李佳琦案例；评论区邀请
📚 参考文献与学术注脚
Angulo, A. N., Goldstein, N. J., & Norton, M. I. (2025). Friendship fallout and bailout backlash: The psychology of borrowing and lending. Journal of Consumer Psychology, 35(1), 3–21. https://doi.org/10.1002/jcpy.1410
Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1979). Interpersonal attraction in exchange and communal relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 37(1), 12–24. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.37.1.12
Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (2012). A theory of communal (and exchange) relationships. In P. A. M. Van Lange, A. W. Kruglanski, & E. T. Higgins (Eds.), Handbook of theories of social psychology (Vol. 2, pp. 232–251). Sage. https://doi.org/10.4135/9781446249222.n38
Doden, W., Grote, G., & Rigotti, T. (2018). Does leader–member exchange buffer or intensify detrimental reactions to psychological contract breach? The role of employees' career orientation. Journal of Vocational Behavior, 106, 192–208. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jvb.2018.02.004
Farh, J.-L., & Cheng, B.-S. (2000). A cultural analysis of paternalistic leadership in Chinese organizations. In J. T. Li, A. S. Tsui, & E. Weldon (Eds.), Management and organizations in the Chinese context (pp. 84–127). Palgrave Macmillan. https://doi.org/10.1057/9780230511590_5
Fiske, A. P. (1991). Structures of social life: A four-element model of morally constituted relationships. Free Press.
Fiske, A. P. (1992). The four elementary forms of sociality: Framework for a unified theory of social relations. Psychological Review, 99(4), 689–723. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.99.4.689
Fiske, A. P., & Tetlock, P. E. (1997). Taboo trade-offs: Reactions to transactions that transgress the spheres of justice. Political Psychology, 18(2), 255–297. https://doi.org/10.1111/0112-8957.00062
Giessner, S. R., & van Quaquebeke, N. (2010). Using a relational models perspective to understand normatively appropriate conduct in ethical leadership. Journal of Business Ethics, 95(1), 43–55. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10551-011-0797-3
Khullar, T. H., Kirmayer, M. H., & Dirks, M. A. (2021). Relationship dissolution in the friendships of emerging adults: How, when, and why? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 39(1), 217–241. https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075211026015
Kirchler, E., Rodler, C., Hölzl, E., & Meier, K. (2001). Conflict and decision-making in close relationships: Love, money, and daily routines. Psychology Press.
Körner, R., & Schütz, A. (2021). Power in romantic relationships: How positional and experienced power are associated with relationship quality. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 38(9), 2653–2677. https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075211017670
Leventhal, G. S. (1980). What should be done with equity theory? New approaches to the study of fairness in social relationships. In K. J. Gergen, M. S. Greenberg, & R. H. Willis (Eds.), Social exchange: Advances in theory and research (pp. 27–55). Plenum Press.
McGraw, A. P., & Tetlock, P. E. (2005). Taboo trade-offs, relational framing, and the acceptability of exchanges. Journal of Consumer Psychology, 15(1), 2–17. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327663jcp1501_2
Restubog, S. L. D., & Bordia, P. (2006). Workplace familism and psychological contract breach in the Philippines. Applied Psychology: An International Review, 55(4), 563–585. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1464-0597.2006.00247.x
Restubog, S. L. D., Bordia, P., Tang, R. L., & Krebs, S. (2010). Investigating the moderating effects of LMX in the psychological contract breach–employee performance relationship: A test of two competing perspectives. British Journal of Management, 21(2), 422–437. https://doi.org/10.1348/1468-2071.09.006
Rousseau, D. M. (1989). Psychological and implied contracts in organizations. Employee Responsibilities and Rights Journal, 2(2), 121–139. https://doi.org/10.1007/BF01384942
Rousseau, D. M. (1995). Psychological contracts in organizations: Understanding written and unwritten agreements. Sage.
Vogler, C., Lyonette, C., & Wiggins, R. D. (2008). Money, power and spending decisions in intimate relationships. The Sociological Review, 56(1), 117–143. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-954X.2008.00779.x
Williams, K. D. (2007). Ostracism. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 425–452. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085641
本期主播｜ 1号
1号：企业培训师，高管教练，ICF ACC教练；前麦肯锡项目经理，500强总监；播客厂牌《良好生活》联合发起人
你还可以在这里找到我们：
📕101号谈职场
B站101号谈职场
相关信息：
如果你想探讨教练相关话题，请查看此文：如果你想找个教练聊聊
_________________________________________________________________
「101号谈职场」，从职场小白到职场中层都在听的泛职场播客，焦职场沟通，关注职场人的打工体验
两位90后主播和他们的朋友们，致力于挖掘职场打工人的个人成长，行业亲历和有趣故事，和你一起吐槽老板，八卦行业；也和你一起努力拼搏，憧憬未来。
但我们始终坚信，“职场只是生活的一部分”，我们祝愿你有一个成功的职业生涯，但我们更希望你有一个快乐的人生
10：扎根于是市场营销的快消原住民，辗转于联合利华，欧莱雅，拜尔斯道夫、汉高等企业，一个阳光乐观的市场人
1号：辗转快消、体育、互联网、咨询的MBB咨询项目经理，个人成长教练，国家二级心理咨询师，Tedx演讲教练，培训师
如果你喜欢我们的节目，欢迎到小宇宙，苹果podcast，spotify，网易云音乐，喜马拉雅，QQ音乐订阅我们的播客，也欢迎添加e0ehao的微信，加入我们的听友群。
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