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00:23 今天的话题关于友谊和比较

I would like to give you my story it's a real story and happened in yesterday.

00:43 她突然哭了

So the story is about me and my roommate. 

I heard some abnormal voices come from my roommate she was on her bed and looking at her phone so at first I think maybe that's just some laughter I mean she has seen some very interesting stories or some you know absurd things on her phone and then that made her laugh it's quite normal because we often share that interesting stories on social media but then I received a letter. I received a message from her she said.

02:07 她说她想静静她很难过

Please leave alone and I'm so upset today.

And I don't want to. Interrupt you maybe you please give me some time to let me digest my mood 她需要时间消化情绪 so at that time I realized she has some bad feelings she has a negative mood and I want to comfort her I want to let her feel better. 

02:41 她哭的原因是自己没得到奖学金

And I began to think about the reason behind her crying.

That day she received the final official message in our university.

03:06 我得了一等奖

This term but she didn't receive any reward.

And me? As the roommates of her I received the first prize in my school

03:47 我甚至没看那则通知

You know. I got some words but I didn't check the message so I don't know other information and also I think that's none of my business.

04:14 她忍不住地比较

She just couldn't help comparing she and me

我告诉她比较是偷走快乐的小偷I told him comparison is a thief of happiness and. Let's just take easier what you lose will not define your future and don't be so sad about the bad results 

There are still a lot of people who are very excellent.奖学金真的证明不了什么 还有很多优秀的人也没得

05:01 但好像既得利益者的我说什么都是错的

It's like I'm a winner and what I said is just like something very. You know nonsense to a so called loser so so she she began to deny yourself.

05:49 她情绪仍然低落 

Even until now in the evening I mean she still in a bad feeling she even refused to have dinner with me 

08:35 不要让低落占领你太久

Do not let this mood take you for so long.

08:59 东亚人的惯性——自我贬低

It's quite easy for a Chinese you think she's not good or he's not great.

We'are easily to self abasement

09:25 让别人告诉你你有多好

So sometimes we need others to point out our merit.

Then we you can even write down your advantages you can even. You ask someone what's in what aspects you'really great at and let others to give you a very overall assessment to let others talk with you you know you should not combine yourself in such a very sorrowful trap cage.

10:26 你是谁由你说了算

And when you define what a person you are then you are that person.