i've noticed that a lot of gen z and millennial people seem to be choosing their career over love. there seems to be this sort of belief within young people that you can't have both and need to choose one or the other. i've kind of seen this narrative float around a bit on the internet and in person and it really got me thinking: is this true? do you have to choose one? do you have to choose being in love and being in a relationship or building a successful career? or can you have both? upon reflecting upon my own life, and thinking for a while, i realized i disagree with this idea. i think that relationships don't have to prevent success at all, in fact, i think being in a good relationship can nurture success. so that's what we're talking about today. we’re going to go over why i think this is true and why it could be true for you, too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

something i (and probably you) have struggled with our whole lives is thinking other people are cooler than us. seeing someone on social media or at a party and thinking, 'god, why are they so much cooler than me?' it's just a part of life. but recently, i have come to the conclusion that i don't think anyone is that cool. i think some people are just better than others at creating an illusion that they're cool. i actually might argue that the concept of coolness that we've all been living by our whole lives is a lie. the idea of coolness we have is completely fake. i would argue this. and that's what we're going to talk about today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

today we're going to be talking about temptation. which, in my opinion, is one of the most challenging things we deal with as human beings. it's something we deal with whether we're 2 years old or 102 years old. the temptations can change as we get older, but some form of it is always there. the reason i think it's so hard to deal with, is because in the short term, it's often easier and more fun- there's instant gratification. the problem is, usually things that are tempting, that you know are wrong, will end up leaving you miserable down the line. no one gets away with it - the universe doesn't work like that. i feel like it's the fighting of a temptation that helps you grow into a more morally solid person. it's so important for your self-development, self-esteem and more...recently i had my own sort of awakening with resisting temptation that really clicked for me and that's what i want to talk about today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

so for the last month of my life i have been traveling...i've been living out of a literal carry-on suitcase for an entire month. it's the longest i've ever traveled and while, overall, it's an incredible experience, it also isn't a perfect experience, because nothing in life really ever is. i kind of wanted to shed some light on what it's really like to travel for a long period of time. i want to share what i've learned - the best things about it, the things that can be hard and some little tips and tricks to make your long-term travel more enjoyable and sustainable. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

today we're talking about pet peeves. i have done this a couple times on the show, where i talk about my pet peeves and just list them off. but it has been a while and i have a whole new list. i have so many more pet peeves...things that just piss me off, things that make me angry, things that have been bothering me and i am going to share them all today. why? there's literally no reason. there's no deeper meaning, no philosophical value, i just want to vent about what's been annoying me. maybe you guys will agree? maybe you will feel understood and related to. but that's what we're doing today. here we go. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

well, my cats woke me up at 3am and i couldn't fall back asleep, so i am coming to you at 5:30am and the thing on my mind is relationships...i haven't talked about relationships in a long time and i wanted to bring them up again because they are fascinating to me. it's just so interesting when two people get together...like, why did those two people choose each other? i analyze this constantly. so today i want to talk about two relationship dilemmas that i think are not talked about enough: 1) finding balance when it comes to dealing with your own issues in a relationship, and 2) having independence in a relationship. i am going to share what i've learned about these two dilemmas and we will have a conversation about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

today we're doing something fun. today we're going to take a look at some of the fashion trends that are happening right now, and we're going to discuss them. then i am going to decide whether i think the trend is trendy and it will dissipate at some point...or whether it's timeless and it's something that will stick around for years to come. that's today's episode. i actually did this type of episode before, honestly maybe a year ago, but i think there's new trends happening now, so it's time to do it again. let's get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

welcome back for part two of my series on failure. the first episode in this series was about failing as a human being. this episode is a little bit different because it's actually about failing in your endeavors. maybe that's job-related, something creative, school-related, a new hobby...failing in our endeavors in life. right now in our society, it's hard to fail...it kind of feels like there's no room for it. so i want to share some tools i've found that makes trying something new easier or a little more enjoyable and decreases the fear of failure. here we go. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

hi. for the next two episodes i'm going to be doing a little two part series about failure. i wanted to do this because i think it's really easy to forget that failing in anything in life doesn't define you. it doesn't make you a permanently evil person, it doesn't make you a permanent loser or a permanent idiot. failing actually has a crucial role in becoming a better you in all areas of life. i think a lot of us know that, but it's easy to forget. so today i want to remind you, and talk about failing as a human being...about personal failure to yourself and others. we'll go over types of personal failure, the lessons we learn from failure, how to handle it and move on from it, failure in relationships and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

another episode with more things that you didn't ask for but you absolutely need in your life. some of these you may hate me for but i swear they will make your life so much better. clothing items, beauty products, apps, and pistachios that have changed my life. seriously. they're amazing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

hello. so i got to go to fancy event recently…and that’s great, but unfortunately that day, i was just not feeling myself…i was feeling a little insecure and not too cute. and the thing about fancy events is people always take a lot of photos and that happened there…there were some pictures taken of me at the event that i was not a fan of that kept getting reposted and honestly, i had a little freak out. i was really struggling with my self-image. and that got me thinking about plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures…what are the negatives, positives and should you tell someone about them? so i am talking all about that, including how i feel about them and whether i would ever get one. honestly, it’s kind of a layered topic, but i love talking this stuff out with you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

hello- today we’re talking about criticism. i think criticism is so important in all of its forms. i experience criticism a lot, and have actually learned to appreciate it. it’s possible to benefit rather than suffer from criticism. i share what i see as the distinction between helpful criticism and hurtful criticism, how i think criticism is best given, how i think criticism is best received, and more of my thoughts on the topic. how do you handle criticism? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices