BT English07: Three things to improve your English

许多人都会有这么一个困惑:如何能学好英语呢?问出这个问题的时候,英语就变成了一个学科,而不仅仅是一种语言了。想想你是怎么学习中文的,就大概知道为什么英语学不好了。因为你没有把它当成一种交流工具。这期想聊一下为什么英语不好的三个主要原因,或者说,如何让你的英语有提高的三个关键点。这期语速偏慢,语言简单,适合脱离文字稿,纯听。 GRE--Graduate Record Examination, is a standardized test that is an admissions requirement for many graduate schools in the United States and Canada and few in other countries, according to Wikipedia. Unlike TOEFL, a test of English, with which people are more familiar, GRE is a test in English. I know a lot about this test, and I had a lot of experiences about how to conquer that. But I can't say I am a master in GRE, I just learned a lot from this examination. And I'm still a student, just like you, who wanna know more about how to improve your English, critical reasoning, logic, and all intellectual fields. Today I'd like to share you all GRE takers or anyone interested in learning English, three key points to improve your English. I'm Yvonne, and welcome to BT English. First of all, don't memorize words only from vocabulary books. Pick up words in the reading contexts. Have you ever had this kind of confusion? I learned a new word from a vocabulary book, and I can even remember the position of the word in the book. But I just cannot recall the meaning of it. Hm, that's you, uh? Why? Think about yourself. How did you learn Chinese, our mother-tongue? You can speak Chinese even before you can read Chinese characters on paper, right? How did you get that? You learn how to speak Chinese by imitating your parents first, and then you learn more from TV, reading articles on magazine, newspapers. You never, almost never, learned Chinese by memorizing it from a dictionary. So did English. Pick up words in conversations, in articles, and in reading materials. What's important is not you can memorize the meaning of a new word in the dictionary, but you can use that word in your speaking or writing. Secondly, for the English test takers, especially for the GRE takers, do more readings. Over thousand times, I heard my students' complaints that "Yvonne, vocabulary is my enemy, that's why I can't conquer GRE". Not really. You can't go through this test not only because of a paucity of words but because of a paucity of knowledge. I didn't mean to offend you guys, but that's the truth. When you encounter "suffrage movement" in the reading comprehension part, you get confused. When you encounter "empathy" in the text completion part, you just use it as a synonym of "sympathy". You don't know anything about supernova, an exploding star, or temperance movement, a movement consisting of the largest woman movement in the 19th century America. Yes, we did know a lot about our country, but we knew little about the world history. Thirdly, learning English is a long-term project, which means it's not that obvious when you did make some progress. I think that partially accounts for the question: why so many students are crazy into memorizing words. You are lulled into a false sense of getting improved by the increased number of words you can remember. I know, in modern period, we human beings are all set in a fast freeway. We prefer fast foods, make easy money, and scroll cell phones seeking the next excitement. But you cannot learn English well in such a rush way. You need time to learn new words, and to get familiar with a new phrase. Here is my suggestion: let your interest guide you. If you are interested in literary, go grab some books or e-books of novel. If you are interested in natural sciences, come on, there are tons of documentaries on the Internet. Whatever you are interested in, go for it. You're not learning English. You are learning something you love, by the way, in English. And gradually, you know more about this world as well as about English. I would love to share my experiences and my knowledge all about how to practice English and how to conquer GRE、TOEFL、IELTS stuff thing in the following episodes, and I hope that'll be helpful. I am Yvonne, and see you next time.

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3年前

BT English06: Hey, Friends! 重温老友记

最近国内的各大视频网站上重映了《老友记》,你看了没?第一季上线之后,我已经看了五遍。以前看的时候并没有太大的感受,甚至还觉得因为年代久远,有些无法找到共鸣。这次也不知道是怎么了,就是会被六个人的感情给打动,被Monica的那句“Welcome to the real world! It sucks. You are gonna love it”拽进故事当中,随他们笑而笑,随他们难过而难过。Anyways,今天我要聊一聊老友记了(主要是第一二季),你准备好了嘛~ Which one do you like best, Monica, Rachel or Phoebe? And how about the gents? Ross, a little bit geeky, nerdy, but very sensitive and cute; Chandler, witty but sarcastic; or Joey, sometimes silly but very caring and sweet. You guys can figure out that the topic today I am gonna deal with is Friends, a television sitcom created in 1994. Since Friends reshowed on the Chinese video website recently, I have been through the first seasons for 5 times. For me, it's too hard to decide which one of them is my favorite. I just love all of them. In Friends, I can see how these characters grow and how they handle different relationships with parents, friends and lovers. I am gonna talk about several impressive scenarios in my way. I'm Yvonne, and welcome to BT English. As we all know, Ross is Monica's brother. They have shared parents. But the difference is that, to their parents, Ross is the one who never did wrong—he is the "Prince". Monica's not that lucky. Their mother is always picking on her every little detail—her haircut, her dress, her job, everything. It seems like whatever Monica did would never satisfy her mother. Thus, every time when Ross and Monica's parents stopped by her place, she felt very nervous and twirly, just couldn't calm down. Even though I don't have a sibling to overshadow me, I can still connect with Mon. When I was a teenage girl, if I did something wrong, for example, if I got a low score in examination, well, I could totally imagine what's gonna happen. However, the difficult part is that Monica has no idea about how to ingratiate her mother. But in the episode of "Nana's funeral", we can figure that out: just because her Nana, Monica's grandmother, dictated her mother these years, her Mom implicitly treated Monica in the same way. At the very end of this episode, her Mom complained her Nana to Monica, said how picky and bossy she was. Monica asked her mother "do you think things would have been better if you just told her the truth?" Her mother thought for a second and refused. I mean what a reality! No matter how old you are, people just don't wanna confront their parents. Afterwards, when her mother gotta pick on her one more time, suddenly she realized and stopped. And then, she just praised Monica's earrings. Monica said "thank you, they're yours." And her mother replied, "actually, they're Nana's." We always have lot of complaints about our parents, but we still love them deeply from bottom of our heart in the way they love us. And then, let's say something about friendship. Here are two stories impressed me very much. First one is about Joey and Phoebe. In the first two seasons, they're still friends. So, let's start from "they are just friends". Phoebe has a twin sister Ursula with whom she hasn't talked in years. Dim-witted Joey crushed on Ursula in her workplace. I just have no idea how come, I mean, don't they just look the same? Never mind, Joey just crushed on her for no reason. Phoebe was pissed off, not only because Joey didn't show up in her birthday party, but also because he celebrated birthday with her twin sister whom Phoebe didn't like that much. However, Joey's crush on Ursula ended with break-up. On the one hand, Ursula was not that into Joey. On the other hand, Joey wasn't willing to compromise on friendship. He preferred Phoebe. Just like Phoebe said, "boyfriends and girlfriends are gonna come and go, but this (their friendship) is for life." And the second one is about Monica and Rachel. When Rachel finally finds out her feeling about Ross, Ross has a girlfriend, Julie. Oh, come on, such a cliche, you know. Ross has been loving Rachel since 9th grade, but Rachel was not on the same page with him until he's over her. And suddenly, this Julie bumped into Ross. It's Rachel's turn to not feel good. Oh my god, I just wanna say "hello, what's wrong with you guys". And then, my poor little Monica, she just didn't know how to do. Julie, her brother's girlfriend and a nice woman too, invited her to go shopping together. Technically, she would love to hangout with her potential sister-in-law. But there is a Rachel, her real friend who is disturbed by Julie, this new girlfriend. When Rachel caught her going out for shopping with Julie, Monica behaved exactly the same as a husband who is caught an affair by his wife. Yep, I mean, sometimes, we treat our best friend as our partner. We just cannot stop thinking of occupation. And Rachel has her point of view, this woman, Julie, not only stole the man who might be the person she is supposed to be with, but also stole her best friend Monica, this sweet and bitter girls friendship. And then, let me turn to my favorite part—Ross and Rachel's love. What a cute couple they are! I mean, can you imagine another couple on earth could be a little more cuter than they are? No, you can't. I claim they are the cutest of the cute. Yes, you can see how much I love them, huh? I heard someone said Ross is too weak and lack of masculinity. What I wanna say is, maybe you misunderstand what is masculinity. I think a man would be more charming if he could show his care and provide emotional support for his beloved girl, not to mention how smart he is. At the same time, this man has been loving a girl for 10 years! That's the most romantic thing I can ever picture. And of course, Rachel knows that and value that very much. Rachel said they two could have real connection with each other. I have to admit that Ross is not perfect, of course, so is Rachel. But that doesn't mean they couldn't make it to be a perfect couple. Even though they are gonna have lots of troubles in the following seasons, they could fixed them up together. Like what Phoebe said, Rachel is Ross's lobster. And Ross is the man who is worth Rachel's waiting. Certainly, there are some other fantastic moments in Friends, such as the moment Ross sent his lesbian wife Carol to her lesbian lover Susan, the moment little Ben was given birth to, the moment Rachel broke up with her Mr. Right Richard. In every important single moment, each one of the six is having good company around them. Just like the lyric says "I'll be there for you, 'cause you're there for me too." All right, I guess I'm gonna stop here tonight. My dear listeners, have a wonderful night. I'm Yvonne, bye-bye.

10分钟
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3年前

BT English05: Ego and Empathy 关于「自我」和「共情」的思考

去年秋季的时候,GRE老师教研,遇到一道填空题说:共情是很妙的事情,但是无法打破精神上的隔阂。我当时非常的同意,因为一直坚信没有真正的「感同身受」。但这几个月的经历,又让我有了一些新的感悟。也许,没有所谓「真正的感同身受」。但你愿意去倾听和体会,你愿意去相信和提供帮助,这本身就是一种很美好的事情,我想称它为「共情」。这期,根据我自己的经历,我从“自我”聊到“共情”,并且区分了一下“共情”和“同情”,如果你也有类似的体会,欢迎留言,讨论,转发~ As you guys can see, I am a teacher who have been teaching GRE verbal section for more than 10 years. Recently, I encountered a question in the text completion part, which says "empathy is a wonderful thing, but it does not defeat mental separateness because all attempts to grasp the subjective experience of another are interpretations, not acts of merging." I agreed with this point in the past few years. I think it's impossible that persons share the same feelings. When your friends say"I can feel exactly what you felt", it doesn't mean they really could feel that, but just mean they think they are capable of having the shared feeling. Yes, I was a skeptic to the concept of empathy. And meanwhile, I was proud of myself that I could hold my own point of view. In other words, I had my ego, an ego that led everything I had in my life. But is that true: there is no such a thing called empathy? Everybody who would like to live an independent life must have their own ego? I am going to talk about something of "ego and empathy". This episode would be a little bit esoteric, and as well I will leave the script in the shownotes. I'm Yvonne, and welcome to BT English. First of all, I'd like to clarify my definition of Ego. Ego here, it's more like "insisting what you genuinely believe in and think"than arrogance or narcissism. In this aspect, Ego is not a completely bad idea. Using myself as an example, my ego led me to my career and brought me confidence. As a GRE teacher, I have to study the reading material deeply and seriously by my own. Unless 100% sure about the questions in the examination, without my own understanding or thinking, I couldn't deliver the knowledge to my students effectively. I have to hold my ego that "I am very familiar with GRE and I am pretty sure what I am teaching in class is right." Speaking of which, I do think that ego lead me a way to becoming more and more professional in my own field. OK, enough with the bright side of Ego, I am gonna turn to another side. I heard a lot of saying about "shedding your ego". I agreed with that, especially in the daily life. When you communicate with other people, when you wanna make some new friends, the most important thing is listening. You need to pay attention to what other people are talking about. At this moment, "what you genuinely believe in and think" doesn't that matter, your conversation and communication matters. That means, you need to put down your beliefs for a while, and focus on other's narrative. Or I can say, when you are the narrator, go ahead with your ego; but when you are a listener, please drop your ego down and just listen. Ego in this situation would interrupt the flow of communication. And when you shed your ego, you are on the way to empathy. I'd like to distinguish two words with some similarities: sympathy and empathy. Some people use these two words in a synonymous way. The overlap is real, but they're not identical. Sympathy is understood as an ability to see other people's pain or misery, and to feel sorry and compassion for their suffering. Empathy is different. Empathy is not feeling sorry, it's more like, here, I'd like to quote a saying from Pharrell Williams "empathy is about looking at someone's experiences through their lenses. " Yes, through their lenses. A lot of us are very set in our ways. We think what we think. We feel what we feel. And we're not really interested in outside points of view. But you don't really ever grow when you allow yourself to be constrained like that. Empathy here is to show you way out of limitations, to build up a connection between you and someone else, to widen the aperture of understanding. Here is my story. Instead of criticism and reproach, I felt empathetic to Strickland, a character in the book and musical The Moon and Sixpence. He is a very controversial character who has been criticized for his irresponsibility and ego many years. But when I was sitting in the theater, going through all his thoughts and ideas in the story, I could understand his thinking and his feeling. I did look at his experiences through his lenses. I knew that he abandoned his wife and children not because of his irresponsibility but because of his dream, a dream to paint exactly what had happened to him. A dream goes beyond his secular life. Empathy doesn't mean "I agree with you", but means "I don't judge you and I care". You're not self-centric anymore, and you shift from selfish to selfless. So, my dear friends, do you have any story to share? Or what's your opinion about Ego and Empathy? You're more than welcome to leave comments down below. I'm Yvonne, and see you next time.

8分钟
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3年前
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