Vol 113. 对谈成庆:从佛学和心理学角度,聊聊“上岸”这件事儿

钱婧老师的会客厅

朋友们大家好,欢迎来到钱婧老师的会客厅,我是钱婧,是北京师范大学的一名教师。本期对谈,我邀请到上海大学历史系副教授、《人生解忧:佛学入门四十讲》的作者成庆,一起聊聊,在焦虑当道的今天,面对如流沙般不稳定的未来,年轻人有哪些方法能够在漂浮状态中找到脚下的实地。希望我们的对谈能对你有所帮助和启发,同时欢迎朋友们在评论区分享自己的经验和看法。 五四青年节来临,中国平安携手小宇宙App,共同呈现内容企划#实心青年请就位#。作为中国领先的综合金融集团,中国平安始终关注并陪伴青年成长,提供“保险、医疗、金融、养老”在内的全方位服务,给年轻人打造省时间、省钞票、更省心的生活buff。本次企划更是为大家提供关于「实心青年」的样本合辑与行动指南,就是想让每个年轻人都能掌握生活主动权,心里有谱、脚下有根,把日子过得扎扎实实的,活成真正的「实心青年」! 欢迎大家在微信公众号、b站、小红书搜索「钱婧老师」,也欢迎大家添加VX:qamaster22进入听友群,注明本硕博学生或职场人,群内氛围美好,不定时抽取书籍等小礼物,我会在上面及时更新一些动态,发布线下的活动通知,也会在以上的平台和大家做一些交流。 成庆:上海大学历史系副教授,主要研究中国近代佛教思想史及明清禅宗史。著有《人生解忧:佛学入门四十讲》,看理想APP音频节目《人生解忧:佛学入门40讲》主讲人。 钱婧:北京师范大学 教授 博士生导师 研究方向:职场心理学 商务合作:[email protected] 在本期节目中,将聊到下边的一些内容: * 如何看待当代青年的普系焦虑? * 如何看待当代年轻人给焦虑“归因”的行为? * 短期出走会对缓解焦虑有所帮助吗? * 从佛学角度,如何看待自我意识和外部世界的碰撞产生的痛苦? * 有哪些方式能够对抗“空心”的虚无感? |时间线| 01:44 成庆老师的自我介绍 02:41 如何看待当代青年的普系焦虑? 04:24 环境的改变带来了个人的选择困境 06:48 年轻一代关于择业的标准也在慢慢改变 08:40 对付出的过程望而却步,对结果的欲念丝毫不减 10:17 现在的佛系都是“仰卧起坐” 11:50 “搞钱”提供给年轻人的幸福感在哪里? 14:22 “加法”和“减法”之间做抉择 15:35 成老师在20出头的时候会有各种形式的增量带来的焦虑吗? 17:02 对人生意义的诉求会不会是另一种维度的加法和增量呢? 17:50 成老师在20岁的时候会有追寻“求不得”的迷茫和焦虑吗? 20:36 当下能够做好什么就投入自己全部的精力 27:01 如何看待年轻人现在焦虑“归因”? 33:44 用短期的出走来逃避焦虑,对焦虑的缓解会有帮助吗? 34:58 出行平安时刻:从日常里,慢慢摸索出属于自己的节奏 36:21 年轻人如何能够很好地处理人际关系? 45:34大学老师高校职场的“卷”和普通打工人的“卷”有什么区别吗? 52:59 从佛学角度,如何看待自我意识和外部世界的碰撞产生的痛苦? 58:42 独处也是一种跟世界链接的方式 60:08 有哪些方式能够对抗“空心”的虚无感? 61:49 动起来,关注自己的身体 62:17 每个人的思想、精神、心智成长,是一步一步来的,是有节奏的 65:37 人很多时候,是需要真实的链接感来折射自己的存在的 67:08 成老师是如何理解“上岸”这个概念? 69:30 成老师认为现在自己的人生是已经“上岸”的状态吗? 70:56 do something bigger than yourself 72:34 成老师对自己人生意义追寻程度的打分 73:16 送给“实心青年”们的祝福 74:23 尾声 本期节目为企划#实心青年请就位#系列节目之一,感谢中国平安对本期节目的特别支持。关于节目中所提到的#平安银行信用卡#,👈你可以点击文字了解更多详情。 关于《钱婧老师的会客厅》更多空间,你可以在这找到我: * 微信公众号:钱婧老师 * b站:钱婧老师 * 小红书:钱婧老师 * 微博:钱婧BNU

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BBC Ideas|为什么我们会刷剧停不下来 ?

英音听力|BBC & 经济学人等

Why do we binge-watch? Scott: I can easily watch an entire series in a single day. Hamira: Two days. Brian: Ten hours of television a day, and I didn't even like it. Scott: Bingeing started by accident. Netflix had realised that loads of people were gravitating towards watching shows in bulk, you know, be that shows that you've seen before - Friends, Seinfeld, Law & Order, ER. That's the surprise about it - it's led by the consumer. The way that Netflix tries to nudge you to watch more, it's very subtle little tricks. They work out very quickly when a show launches, which thumbnail is working. Why? Also, getting to the very end of an episode and immediately the credits, they minimalize it right to the corner of the screen straight away and automatically load the next episode. That's how you sometimes get sucked into watching a show for three hours without even noticing. Brian: I have found that people are deeply embarrassed by how much they watch TV. Deeply embarrassed to not be productive and take time off and say,"Actually, I watched six hours of television today because I needed to not look at five different tabs on a work computer, I just needed to..." We also binge to be part of the public conversation. (Yeah, I love Fleabag! ) So I think there is an anxiety about being caught up about this content, which is forcing people to binge more also. Hamira: When we can identify with a character it leads to the release of the love hormone oxytocin. It creates a bond. A series like Big Little Lies, which allows you to look at the same event through the eyes of very different characters, you're bound to be able to find a character that you can relate to and go on the journey with. ("If you ever touch my little girl like that again, you're gonna be in big trouble." ) (So are there benefits to binge-watching?) If we're making time to watch a series end-to-end, we are potentially creating hours of space to work with our emotions, our relationships. (There was a 41% leap in the number of couples seeking counselling after Love Island 2019 began airing.) Brian: I have probably watched television with over 700 people, and so I've experienced a lot of people having big emotions. (No-one's fun anymore. Whatever happened to fun! ) The episode Splat! of Sex and the City, which is the one where Kristen Johnston falls out of a window causes people a lot of emotions because it's an episode about moving on from something. Hamira: Our brains don't discriminate between real activation and activation due to imagined events. (Binge-watching is not just about relaxing, what we watch can have an effect on our nervous system.) Binge-watching means that you're activating yourself to a high degree for much longer periods of time. That's going to take longer for you to come down from that. Episode four of Game of Thrones where Missandei is beheaded - a much beloved character, it's a very graphic death - will have triggered the sympathetic nervous system. It wouldn't be conducive to a good night's sleep. (Video on demand is changing the way stories are told. Series are designed with bingeing in mind.) Scott: What makes Netflix stand out so well is the fact that they're able to really experiment with the number of characters, the number of story arcs. Netflix knows that you're never going to watch a show midway through, you're never going to start in the middle, you're always going to start from the very beginning. So that's why you've got Orange Is the New Black, which has a cast of about 40. So you know you're able to have that level of depth over an eight-hour series, than what you would normally do if it was separated into eight 60-minute chunks shoved on a linear broadcast channel. Brian: Bingeing is a word that has very negative connotations to it, right? Bingeing is to shovel yourself. We don't say, "I binged a book." But the reality is that some of the greatest writers of our generation are writing television. I would be the last person to say stop binge-watching. 词汇表 binge [bɪndʒ] 无节制的行为(如刷剧,暴食,狂饮等);放纵 Netflix ['netflɪks] 网飞(全球著名的流媒体公司) loads of [ləʊdz] 许多,大量 gravitate ['ɡrævɪteɪt] 被吸引,移向, 倾向 in bulk [bʌlk] 大量地,整批地 Friends, Seinfeld, Law & Order, ER (emergency room) ['saɪnfeld] 《老友记》《宋飞正传》《法律与秩序》《急诊室的故事》(美国电视剧) nudge [nʌdʒ] 促使,劝说;轻推,推动 launch [lɔːntʃ] 推出,发布;发射;发起 thumbnail ['θʌmneɪl] 缩略图;拇指甲,极小之物 credit ['kredɪt] (影视节目结束时播放的)演职员表;信用;学分 get sucked into [sʌkt] 被卷入,被吸引住 take time off [teɪk taɪm ɒf] 偷空,忙里偷闲;抽出时间,休息 Fleabag ['fliːbæɡ] 《伦敦生活》(英国喜剧);邋遢的人;睡袋 hormone ['hɔːməʊn] 激素,荷尔蒙 oxytocin [ˌɒksɪˈtəʊsɪn] 催产素(帮助和他人感觉更亲近的激素) bond [bɒnd] 纽带,联系 relate to [rɪ'leɪt tuː] 理解,认同,发生共鸣 end-to-end 从头到尾,首尾相连 leap [liːp] 激增,猛涨 counselling ['kaʊns(ə)lɪŋ] 咨询服务,辅导 Love Island 《爱情岛》2019(美国恋爱真人秀节目) Splat [splæt] 《啪嗒!》(《欲望都市》集名);啪嗒声,泼溅声 💡 字数限制,完整词汇表、翻译、视频版和pdf见公众号【琐简英语】,回复"1"可进【打卡交流群】

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