The School of Life｜社交媒体如何影响自我价值感
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How Social Media Affects Our Self-Worth
Early on in every life, a child will look up and – implicitly – ask the world: Am I OK? Do I deserve goodwill and sympathy? Am I on track?
And, most commonly, the person who first answers these questions is a parent. Perhaps this parent happens to be generous and sympathetic, they are warm and understanding of the challenges of being alive – in which case the child develops an easy conscience. In the years to come, they appraise themselves with benignancy, they don't continuously have to wonder whether they have a right to exist. They are comfortably on their own side.
But if the parent is more punitive, the picture grows darker: approval is always uncertain, there is a constant fear of being called arrogant or of being upbraided for something one hadn't thought about.
What's tricky is that consciences don't stay neatly identified with those who kickstarted them. It's rare to find an adult who actively still wonders what their parents think. But that isn't to say that we aren't wondering about our value in more general terms. It's just that we may, without noticing, have taken the question somewhere else – and very often, to particularly harsh modern figure of authority: media and social media.
To this pitiless arena, the self-doubting person now directs all their fears of unworthiness and panicked desire for reassurance. To a system set up to reward sadism and malice, they constantly raise their phones and implicitly ask: Do I deserve to exist? Am I OK? Am I beautiful or respectable enough?
And because social media is built on the troubles of the individual soul, the verdict is never a reliable yes. One is never done with cycles of fear and reassurance-seeking. Every time their spirits sink (which is often), the self-doubting sufferer picks up their phone and begs to know whether they have permission to go on.
If this might be us, we should grow curious about and jealous of people who are free. They are so because someone long ago settled the question of what they were worth and the answer has seemed solid ever since. Social media is a roar in the next valley, not a mob in their own mind.
Learning from these calm souls won't just involve deleting a few apps, we will have to go further upstream, back to the baby self, whose alarmed enquiries we must quiet once and for all with ample doses of soothing, and till-now absent kindness.
词汇表
implicitly [ɪmˈplɪsɪtli] 含蓄地，暗中地
goodwill [ˌɡʊdˈwɪl] 善意，友好，亲切
on track [ɒn træk] 在正轨上，朝着正确的方向进行
sympathetic [ˌsɪmpəˈθetɪk] 同情的，有同情心的
easy conscience [ˈkɒnʃəns] 问心无愧，内心坦然
appraise [əˈpreɪz] 评价，评估，估量
benignancy [bɪˈnaɪɡnənsi] 善意，仁慈；良性
punitive [ˈpjuːnɪtɪv] 惩罚性的，严厉的，苛刻的，
arrogant [ˈærəɡənt] 傲慢的，自大的，自负的
upbraid [ʌpˈbreɪd] 责备，责骂，训斥
identify with 与…密切相关，认同
kickstart [ˈkɪkstɑːt] 启动，发起，促使…开始
pitiless arena [ˈpɪtiləs əˈriːnə] 无情的舞台，冷酷的竞技场
self - doubting [self ˈdaʊtɪŋ] 自我怀疑的，缺乏自信的
unworthiness [ʌnˈwɜːðinəs] 无价值，不值得，不配
panicked [ˈpænɪkt] 惊慌的，恐慌的，慌乱的
reassurance [ˌriːəˈʃʊərəns] 安慰，慰藉，安心
sadism [ˈseɪdɪzəm] 病态的残忍；施虐癖；虐待狂
malice [ˈmælɪs] 恶意，怨恨，恶念
respectable [rɪˈspektəbl] 值得尊敬的，体面的，相当好的
verdict [ˈvɜːdɪkt] 裁决，判断，定论
spirits sink [ˈspɪrɪts sɪŋk] 情绪低落，精神消沉
be jealous of [ ˈdʒeləs] 嫉妒，羡慕
solid [ˈsɒlɪd] 结实的，可靠的，坚实的
roar [rɔː(r)] 吼叫，咆哮，轰鸣
mob [mɒb] 喧嚷的群众，暴民
upstream [ˌʌpˈstriːm] 向上游，逆流；（某事件的）前阶段
alarmed enquiry [əˈlɑːmd ɪnˈkwaɪəri] 惊恐的询问，担忧的询问
once and for all 一劳永逸地，彻底地，永远地
ample doses of soothing [ˈæmpl ˈdəʊsɪz][ˈsuːðɪŋ] 大量的安抚；充足的慰藉
till-now 到现在为止的，一直以来的
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