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Is 'trauma dumping' hurting your friendships?
It's common for good friends to tell each other about pretty much everything going on in their lives. Within healthy friendships. It a way of bonding and supporting one another, especially when one of the friends is struggling.
But sometimes this goes drastically overboard, and someone shares something really personal and traumatic without prior warning or getting permission. That kind of unsolicited oversharing has been labeled trauma dumping.
Bear in mind trauma dumping is not a clinical term. It caught on online after a woman, apparently a therapist, posted a video on TikTok, deriding one of her patients, she used the caption when a client wants to trauma dump first session.
Wait a minute. Aren't therapists supposed to be there to listen to your problems?
Indeed, many commenters expressed shock at the video. A number of people said it made them feel discouraged and anxious about going to therapy. But there's a difference between seeing a therapist and relying on your friend to listen to heavy information when they might not be equipped to deal with it. Of course, friends are there to listen, but it shouldn't be one-way traffic. Furthermore, it doesn't leave any space for the other friend to talk about their own emotions.
Certified psychiatrist Dr. Ish Major described trauma dumping during an appearance on American talk show The Doctors in early 2022. It's emotional terrorism. I'm holding you hostage. I took you hostage. I didn't have your permission, and I don't care because I'm hurting, and you need to deal with it.
What are the negative consequences of trauma dumping?
There's a mix of emotion for the personal people on the receiving end. Of course, they want to help their friend, but you're often powerless to do so and feel drained by shouldering the burden.
Trauma dumping isn't usually geared towards problem solving either. It's more about the temporary relief that comes with discharging emotions, but the most likely long-term result is that you end up driving away people who matter to you when they get fed up. And don't forget that the person you're oversharing too may have their own baggage, you might end up triggering their own unresolved traumas.
What's the best way to deal with trauma dumping?
If you're on the receiving end, It's important to protect yourself and judge the situation. If it feels like it's out of your scope, it probably is. You might want to steer them towards getting professional help, gently make them aware that you're probably not the best person to offer help with that particular trauma.
Meanwhile, if you're the one who wants to share something very personal, give your friend a heads-up before doing so. Let's listen to some tips on that from Dr. Courtney Tracy, also known as the trauma doctor on YouTube.
You could say things like, hey, I'm going through a really tough time right now and I was hoping that I could vent to you. You could also say, there's some things going on in my life right now that I would love to talk to someone about, but they're really heavy. Do you have time to talk to me about that today or maybe in the next couple days?
That way you'll always be mindful of trauma dumping on your friends and avoid awkward situations. There you have it.
词汇表
bonding [ˈbɒndɪŋ] n. 纽带，情感联结，亲密关系的建立
drastically [ˈdræstɪkli] adv. 彻底地，急剧地，剧烈地
go overboard [ˌəʊvəˈbɔːd] 走极端，过度，过分
traumatic [trɔːˈmætɪk] adj. 创伤性的，痛苦难忘的
prior warning [ˌpraɪə] 事先警告，预先提醒
unsolicited [ˌʌnsəˈlɪsɪtɪd] adj. 未经请求的，主动提供的
oversharing [ˌəʊvəˈʃeərɪŋ] n. 过度分享
trauma dumping [ˈtrɔːmə ˈdʌmpɪŋ] 创伤倾倒（指未经同意强行向他人倾诉创伤经历）
deride [dɪˈraɪd] vt. 嘲笑，嘲弄，愚弄
caption [ˈkæpʃn] n. （视频的）说明，标题，字幕
commenter [ˈkɒmentə(r)] n. 评论者，留言者
discouraged [dɪsˈkʌrɪdʒd] adj. 气馁的，灰心的
one-way traffic 单向交流，单向输出
certified psychiatrist [ˈsɜːtɪfaɪd saɪˈkaɪətrɪst] 认证精神科医生
emotional terrorism [ˈterərɪzəm] 情感恐怖主义
hold / take someone hostage [ˈhɒstɪdʒ] 将某人扣为人质，挟持某人
receiving end 接收方，承受的一方
feel drained by [dreɪnd] 因…感到精疲力竭
shoulder the burden 承担负担，肩负压力
be geared towards [ɡɪəd] 以…为导向，针对，面向
discharge [dɪsˈtʃɑːdʒ] vt./vi. 宣泄，排出，释放（情绪）
get fed up 感到厌烦，受够了
baggage [ˈbæɡɪdʒ] n. （心理）包袱，负担
unresolved [ˌʌnrɪˈzɒlvd] adj. 未解决的，未化解的
out of one's scope [skaʊp] 超出某人的能力范围
steer someone towards [stɪə] 引导他们走向/朝向
heads-up [ˈhedz ʌp] n. 事先提醒，预先通知，打招呼
vent [vent] vt. 倾诉，吐露，发泄（情绪、感情等）
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It's common for good friends to tell each other about pretty much everything going on in their lives. Within healthy friendships. It a way of bonding and supporting one another, especially when one of the friends is struggling.
But sometimes this goes drastically overboard, and someone shares something really personal and traumatic without prior warning or getting permission. That kind of unsolicited oversharing has been labeled trauma dumping.
Bear in mind trauma dumping is not a clinical term. It caught on online after a woman, apparently a therapist, posted a video on TikTok, deriding one of her patients, she used the caption when a client wants to trauma dump first session.
Wait a minute. Aren't therapists supposed to be there to listen to your problems?
Indeed, many commenters expressed shock at the video. A number of people said it made them feel discouraged and anxious about going to therapy. But there's a difference between seeing a therapist and relying on your friend to listen to heavy information when they might not be equipped to deal with it. Of course, friends are there to listen, but it shouldn't be one-way traffic. Furthermore, it doesn't leave any space for the other friend to talk about their own emotions.
Certified psychiatrist Dr. Ish Major described trauma dumping during an appearance on American talk show The Doctors in early 2022. It's emotional terrorism. I'm holding you hostage. I took you hostage. I didn't have your permission, and I don't care because I'm hurting, and you need to deal with it.
What are the negative consequences of trauma dumping?
There's a mix of emotion for the personal people on the receiving end. Of course, they want to help their friend, but you're often powerless to do so and feel drained by shouldering the burden.
Trauma dumping isn't usually geared towards problem solving either. It's more about the temporary relief that comes with discharging emotions, but the most likely long-term result is that you end up driving away people who matter to you when they get fed up. And don't forget that the person you're oversharing too may have their own baggage, you might end up triggering their own unresolved traumas.
What's the best way to deal with trauma dumping?
If you're on the receiving end, It's important to protect yourself and judge the situation. If it feels like it's out of your scope, it probably is. You might want to steer them towards getting professional help, gently make them aware that you're probably not the best person to offer help with that particular trauma.
Meanwhile, if you're the one who wants to share something very personal, give your friend a heads-up before doing so. Let's listen to some tips on that from Dr. Courtney Tracy, also known as the trauma doctor on YouTube.
You could say things like, hey, I'm going through a really tough time right now and I was hoping that I could vent to you. You could also say, there's some things going on in my life right now that I would love to talk to someone about, but they're really heavy. Do you have time to talk to me about that today or maybe in the next couple days?
That way you'll always be mindful of trauma dumping on your friends and avoid awkward situations. There you have it.
词汇表
bonding [ˈbɒndɪŋ] n. 纽带，情感联结，亲密关系的建立
drastically [ˈdræstɪkli] adv. 彻底地，急剧地，剧烈地
go overboard [ˌəʊvəˈbɔːd] 走极端，过度，过分
traumatic [trɔːˈmætɪk] adj. 创伤性的，痛苦难忘的
prior warning [ˌpraɪə] 事先警告，预先提醒
unsolicited [ˌʌnsəˈlɪsɪtɪd] adj. 未经请求的，主动提供的
oversharing [ˌəʊvəˈʃeərɪŋ] n. 过度分享
trauma dumping [ˈtrɔːmə ˈdʌmpɪŋ] 创伤倾倒（指未经同意强行向他人倾诉创伤经历）
deride [dɪˈraɪd] vt. 嘲笑，嘲弄，愚弄
caption [ˈkæpʃn] n. （视频的）说明，标题，字幕
commenter [ˈkɒmentə(r)] n. 评论者，留言者
discouraged [dɪsˈkʌrɪdʒd] adj. 气馁的，灰心的
one-way traffic 单向交流，单向输出
certified psychiatrist [ˈsɜːtɪfaɪd saɪˈkaɪətrɪst] 认证精神科医生
emotional terrorism [ˈterərɪzəm] 情感恐怖主义
hold / take someone hostage [ˈhɒstɪdʒ] 将某人扣为人质，挟持某人
receiving end 接收方，承受的一方
feel drained by [dreɪnd] 因…感到精疲力竭
shoulder the burden 承担负担，肩负压力
be geared towards [ɡɪəd] 以…为导向，针对，面向
discharge [dɪsˈtʃɑːdʒ] vt./vi. 宣泄，排出，释放（情绪）
get fed up 感到厌烦，受够了
baggage [ˈbæɡɪdʒ] n. （心理）包袱，负担
unresolved [ˌʌnrɪˈzɒlvd] adj. 未解决的，未化解的
out of one's scope [skaʊp] 超出某人的能力范围
steer someone towards [stɪə] 引导他们走向/朝向
heads-up [ˈhedz ʌp] n. 事先提醒，预先通知，打招呼
vent [vent] vt. 倾诉，吐露，发泄（情绪、感情等）
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