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Education is the first arena where measurement is so publicly played out….Young people have been conditioned to define themselves in the strict and narrow terms of grades, percentiles (百分位数) and lead tables(排名表).

But actually perfectionists usually have lower self-esteem, because they criticize themselves all the time.

Do you hate making mistakes? 
Do you worry about what people think of you? 

你在意别人对你的看法吗？
Is being criticized or getting negative feedbacks upsets you? 如果听到别人对你的负面评价，你会不会很沮丧？
Do you replay in my head things you’ve done, because you worry you’ve offended someone?
经常脑子里回想你和别人说过的话做过的事，担心自己什么地方出错得罪了别人？

We know from clinician /klɪ'nɪʃən/ case reports that perfectionism conceals a host of psychological difficulties, including things like depression, anxiety, and even suicide intention.

The first is self-oriented perfectionism, the irrational desire to be perfect: "I strive to be as perfect as I can be." 

第一个是自我导向型的完美主义， 追求完美的非理性欲望： “我要努力做到尽可能完美。”

The second is socially prescribed perfectionism, the sense that the social environment is excessively demanding: "I feel that others are too demanding of me." 

第二种是社会定向型完美主义， 对社会环境对他们要求过高的感觉： “我感到其他人对我要求太高了。”

And the third is other-oriented perfectionism, the imposition of unrealistic standards on other people: "If I ask somebody to do something, I expect it to be done perfectly."

第三种是其他导向型的完美主义， 把不切实际的标准强加于人： “假如我让人做事情， 我期待结果是完美的。”