Lighten Up! How to De-escalate in English 放松!如何在英语中降级/使事态缓和 Do you have friends who get upset easily ? 5 key phrases to calm them down . When somebody is very angry / upset , don't say lighten up , they could be feel offended by that, it means you are not seeing them, not feel their actual emotion , you are not understanding why they are upset . get over it 克服它：指克服或接受某个困难、挫折或失望的情绪，继续前进。 at the heat of the moment = intensity 一时冲动 i know i know / it's true / you are right / i am with you , but + 以下短句，表示安抚/使事态缓和 1. try to lighten up a little bit. 2. try to relax . 3. try to calm down and take a deep breath . 4. try to take it easy 5. ? she always does that , she is so irresponsibale (不负责任的) i know i know, but just try to relax . i am so annoyed just try to take it easy , let's get some water . it's redicurous . ok ok, just lighten up a little bit , it's not that bad uh~ try to calm down , i can help .