Why you shouldn't be a one-upper : one-upper: a person who is tries to outdue or overshadow others by having a better story or batter experience or better achievement come up in casual conversation usually pretty subtly the attention back to themselves being a one- upper : Ex: you think that's scary one time… 1.comparing experiences Ex: that's nothing you should have seen what i did(launched to the story outdue them) Ex:i had it way worse (way better) it's not good one-uppen you and undermine your story hurts connection (always in competition ） 2.subtle bagging Ex: not to brag but… Ex: i didn't even study and still got the top score ahh that's annoying Ex: everyone always comes to me for help 3.stutus boosting Ex: i actually know the owner Ex:i read that book twice actually