hi everyone it's Rosie

welcome to Radio Headspace and to Tuesday

so yesterday

I talked about the actual process of forgiving someone

else and today

we are venturing further into the world of forgiveness

this time with ourselves

and how forgiving ourselves can create

an environment for growth

and healing

for example

ever been in a situation where you've made a mistake

that felt so massive

so overpowering that it haunted you for days

weeks or even years

that was me a while back

in my case I made a judgment call

investing in a program that

guaranteed it would grow my small

yogan meditation business by tenfold

but after pouring most of our capital into it

it failed miserably

it resulted in me having to let go of my entire team

which was devastating

especially because I had heard about this

bogus program from a

trusted friend

after the incident

I was consumed by the waters of regret

how could I make such a bad call

during this challenging period

I found solace and guidance in a few

key practices that helped me

navigate the turbulent waters of guilt and remorse

the first practice was self-compassion

I realized that berating myself endlessly

and holding onto self-blame

only perpetuated the cycle of negativity

I had to consciously

chose to extend kindness and understanding to myself

just as I would to a dear friend

or a loved one facing a similar situation

I reminded myself that

I deserved forgiveness

and that growth and transformation would come from

even the darkest moments

next I took responsibility for my actions

I acknowledged my role in the decision that had

LED to this awful and unfortunate outcome

accepting responsibility especially when I told my team

allowed me to release the burden of denial

and face the reality of the situation

head on and fortunately they were really

understanding about the whole thing

lastly I committed to learning from my mistake

I recognized that setbacks and failures are often great

teachers in disguise

I reached out to mentors

friends and colleagues whom I trusted and respected

their perspectives

advice and support

provided me with the strength and

encouragement to keep

moving forward

let's be honest it's hard to forgive ourselves

it's because we don't want to repeat the same mistakes

and if we already

have feelings of unworthiness

they just get magnified with each

but its not productive to feel unworthy

we have to move forward

like everything else this process is a journey

so in addition to the things that helped me

during this time

the following are a few

tips to get you to self-forgiveness

number 1 recognize your humanity

we all make mistakes and it's okay

embrace your human imperfections and let them

guide your growth

sometimes when I make mistake

I take a beat and remind myself

I'm human and I'm not designed for perfection

I'm designed for authenticity

this may seem obvious

but in a society where we place

a lot of emphasis on achievement

our humanity can get lost in the shuffle

number 2 practice self-forgiveness

start with small mistakes and gradually

work your way up

remember it's a process

it takes time

I like to do a self-forgiveness

practice where I write myself a letter

or email starting with the prompt

I forgive you because

this lets me type out my thoughts and create space

for what I'm feeling

instead of keeping everything inside

if you want some extra ideas check out Andy's video

how we forgive ourselves in the app

forgiving yourself and

others isn't about forgetting what happened

it's a powerful tool in your journey towards self

love and compassion

that's all for now

if you'd like to share your stories of self-forgiveness

you can DM me on Instagram Rosiacosta

thank you so much for listening

I'll see you back here soon